Melissa in My Heart
The Power of the Heart-to-Heart Connection.
Melissa has been with us just over a year. Her integration has been full of challenges for everyone. She’s been teaching us and we’ve been teaching her, too.
Recently, it occurred to me that creating a permanent heart link with Melissa would help her feel more accepted and more loved. She was eager to do it, even after I reminded her that I already have this connection with Violet and Echo and Starlight.
Once it was created, Melissa began getting into my lap and doing her best to climb inside my shirts. As you can see, she doesn’t always fit completely inside it.
Some of my friends are suggesting that I must be part kangaroo, and she wants to be my “Joey.”
A Neurological Disconnect
Although she’s the youngest member of my feline family, Melissa sees herself as the dominant cat, or “top cat.” Because this is Sakhara’s position, and Sakhara isn’t ready to retire, the two of them have had some difficulties.
Sakhara, age 19, is a very grounded, Earth-energy being who doesn’t believe in fighting. She will hiss and will raise a paw to cuff with claws sheathed, but she won’t start a fight and won’t participate in a fight.
In contrast, Melissa is very young (about 18 months old now) and full of energy. She had been swatting at Sakhara and going out of her way to do it. Even when we were all sitting quietly on the sofa, Melissa would suddenly approach Sakhara and hit her in the fact. Sakhara began jerking her head back in anticipation of being hit whenever Melissa approached her .
Melissa would also come up to Violet and hit her in the face or jump on her head and back, which can injure Violet, age 17 and a bit frail.
Starlight, age 4, loves to wrestle and play with Melissa, but doesn’t expect to be hit. The few times Melissa raised a paw to her, Starlight was startled and gave Melissa a disdainful look.
To stem the wave of aggressive behavior, I pulled out all the stops.
Melissa has been treated with
- flower essences (to remove aggressive emotional patterns),
- chiropractic (to eliminate physical pain),
- homeopathy (to balance her physical/emotional/mental/and spiritual aspects),
- hands-on-healing techniques whenever they seemed called for.
I’ve had varying successes, all short lived.
I also took a more rational (and sometimes irrational) approach. I explained, and explained, and yelled, and explained the “house rules,” and finally even did a “time out” or two with Melissa, all to no avail.
I reassured Melissa that we all loved her and that hitting anyone was unacceptable. She’s a brilliant cat, and I knew she understood.
Why was she continuing to hit everyone?
Hitting is different than the play she does with Starlight. Together they chase, jump on each other, wrestle, and bite and chew on each other. “Sneak attacks” are common and accepted by both. They also cuddle and sleep together every day.
When I began training in The Emotion Code™, Dr. Bradley Nelson’s amazing system for eliminating emotional blocks, Melissa was one of my first “clients.” I got some good results, but the hitting continued. Melissa heart is very defended and I have not yet removed the barrier she put there for emotional protection.
I had also purchased The Body Code™, Dr. Bradley Nelson’s advanced healing system software. Not wanting to leave anything to chance, I did some sessions using this modality with Melissa, too. It was through these sessions that I discovered something of great importance:
Melissa had a neurological disconnect.
She was unable to remember not to hit.
She KNEW hitting was unacceptable.
She just couldn’t stop herself from doing it.
She’d hit someone, and then think, “oops.”
This was new information for me.
I had this insight when I started reconnecting her neurological system.
My next insight was that Melissa had not be able to talk to me about it until I began to reconnect and realign her nervous system. Not being able to talk about it was another symptom of the problem.
It was going to take more than one Body Code™ session to completely reconnect her neurological pathways, but in the meantime I had to protect the other cats. So I asked for spiritual guidance:
What would protect the other cats while Melissa’s healing went forward?
A Family Conference
During the family conference, I explained to everyone that Melissa was having difficulty remembering not to hit.
I invited Violet, Sakhara, and Starlight to all help Melissa.
Each one agreed to remind her, from time to time, not to hit.
The change in Melissa from that moment on
After observing her behavior for a few days, I was amazed that she no longer even raised a paw to strike.
I checked in with the other felines. How frequently were they reminding Melissa not to hit them?
They said they didn’t need to remind her, as it didn’t seem to be a problem any more.
I had also observed the Melissa was unusually sweet and cuddly, more so than ever before.
When I asked her what happened, Melissa said,
I was stunned!
In the 1960’s and 70’s there were Encounter Groups where people participated in games to learn more about how they interacted with others. In one activity, everyone would form a circle holding hands, leaving just one person out, and that person had to try to get into the circle. This revealed each person’s style for getting into a social group that seems to be closed.
Was “aggression” Melissa’s way to
become a member of the group?
While I don’t have a definitive answer to my question, one thing is clear: Melissa is now transformed. She no longer hits the others, although I’ve seen a paw raised once or twice, and she’s much more affectionate towards me.
During this time on Earth, as we’re all being encouraged to become heart centered, to live from our hearts, and to connect through our hearts. Melissa is demonstrating almost daily to me the power of the heart connection.