Practice Kindness.

July 6, 2014 by  
Filed under Heart Centered Living, New Posts

Kindness Is Strength.

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For those of us who spend time and energy sending ourselves all kinds of negative messages about ourselves, I am about to issue a challenge.

The challenge is this:

For the next 2 weeks,

do something KIND for yourself every day,

namely . . .

spend 10-15 minutes remembering

acts of kindness, goodness, and caring

that you’ve done in the past.

If nothing comes to mind, remember

a quality you have that you like about yourself

or an ability you have that you appreciate.

If still nothing comes to mind, reflect on

the rightness and beauty of your

desire for happiness.


Now this may seem easy.  It certainly ought to be easy.  BUT . . .

We’ve been so programmed to think that if there is something we admire about ourselves, that’s a sign of selfishness.  My reply to this is:


One of the biggest problems each of us has right now is lack of self love.  If you don’t love yourself, you can’t fully love another.

So this exercise is a great way to discover things within yourself that you can easily love.

It’s also a great way to shift your focused to the positive, isn’t it?

One way to do this exercise is to do it from your heart space, thus quieting the mental chatter.

Sharon Salzberg wrote in Loving-Kindness:  The Revolutionary Art of Happiness,

Anger generated within ourselves or within others can be met with love; the love is not ruined by the anger…. The loving mind can observe joy and peace in one moment, and then grief in the next moment, and it will not be shattered by the change.  A mind filled with love can be likened to the sky with a variety of clouds moving through it — some light and fluffy, others ominous and threatening.  No matter what the situation, the sky is not affected by the clouds.  It is free.

We are each free to focus our awareness wherever we choose.  We can choose to focus on love and kindness, or on anger and fear.  When we take the time to focus on love and on being kind to ourselves and others, the anger and fear within us starts to dissolve and fade.

Nothing outside of you can prevent love, as long as you do not give away your power to others.  When you make someone else responsible for how you feel and how you behave, you give away your power to choose.

When someone says, “What made you angry?” they are implying that things outside of us make us feel a particular way.  That’s not really the way things work. We can choose to be afraid or we can choose to be angry because of what someone else does or doesn’t do.  — OR — We can choose to stay in the love and just allow their poor behavior to flow past us – to not allow it to affect us at all.  It’s our personal choice.

We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean you are a bad person.  I love you anyway.”

— OR —

We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean I have to have bad manners, too.”

— OR —

We can think, “This person with bad manners is badly in need of love.  I will send them some.”

Then, we can open our hearts and send them love.

Learning to do this on a regular basis requires practice.

So if you decide to take this challenge, please add the wonderful things you discover about yourself as a comment to this blog post.




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