Are You an Empath?

September 5, 2016 by  
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Who’s an Empath?

A friend recently sent me a link to a blog post on being an empath.  When I read the article, it had a powerful effect on me.

So I share the post here with all of you hoping it will give some of  you some important insights.

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15 Things You’ll Notice When

You’re In The Presence of an Empath

By Raven Fon

http://www.mysticalraven.com

“As much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously,
there are some things you’ll notice about us too.”

I remember an instance when I rang the cable company to ask about upgrading my service. After some time had passed, the man I was speaking to had basically poured his heart out about his wife’s battle with cancer.  I never found the information I was looking for, but it wasn’t that important any longer. I had given someone comfort and reassurance- even if they had no idea why they felt the need to tell me this stuff in the first place.

A very similar situation happened when I was out at a restaurant with my niece. I ordered my drink and the next thing I knew, our waiter was asking me how to handle leaving their spouse. There are countless stories like this for me, but I want to know how many you have.

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, defines empathy as this:

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

With empaths, as much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, you’ll notice a few things about us too.

15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re Around an Empath
by TheMysticalRaven.com

1. We are accused of being “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths are not “too” anything. They feel things deeply- both positive and negative. They are in touch with their emotions, and yours. Though it might be harder for an empath to operate in a world designed for less-sensitive people, being an empath has several positive aspects.

2. We can’t stand being lied to.

All it takes is a simple glance in your direction to know you are lying to us. A lot of people don’t realize this, but being lied to really sucks for an empath. We feel it ooze into every aspect of the relationship…and it usually ends them.

3. Negative media images directly affect us.

It’s hard, almost impossible, for an empath to “unfeel” something. We avoid the news, and if we see something upsetting, our emotions are a mess for quite a while. Imagine feeling overwhelming sadness and suffering every single time you saw something violent or upsetting on the news. That’s what it is like for us.

4. Crowded places overwhelm us.

Empaths exist in all personality types, including introvert and extrovert, but even the outgoing ones are easily overwhelmed in crowds. The sheer force of energies and feelings you absorb is exhausting. You might like going to concerts and sporting events, but once there, you can’t wait to leave.

5. We love to heal.

Empaths want what is best for you and your wellbeing. Of course, as with all of our advice, it is only helpful if you actually implement it in your life.

6. We are sensitive to stimulants and medications.

Coffee, certain teas, energy drinks, soda- anything with caffeine makes us more anxious and agitated than the rest of the world. And, when it comes to medications, we try to avoid them as much as possible because of the myriad of side effects we experience.

7. We can only be us.

As far as honest people go, empaths are the truest friends you could ask for. We know who we are and we embrace it fully. It’s other people who seem to have an issue with our sensitive nature and honest attitude.

8. We experience what you are experiencing.

If someone we are close to is ill, depressed, or agitated, we display those same symptoms. We are so connected to what you are going through, that we go through it with you.

9. We don’t like animals, we LOVE animals.

Empaths don’t have pets, we have family members. When we see an animal in the wild, we see a soul…perfect and pure. We talk to them in various ways just as you would your best friend, and guess what…they talk back.

10. Tired, exhausted, and fatigued is normal for us.

Because we absorb so much from others, we don’t just dealing with our own emotional and mental drains, we deal with everybody’s.

11. If we give advice, take it.

If we take the time to listen to your dilemma, and give you heartfelt advice, just listen to it. We know what we are talking about and if you ask for our advice and ignore it, well, let’s just say it kinda annoys us to no end.

12. We are easily distracted.

Perhaps it is due to our heightened sensitivity to everything around us, but empaths are easily distracted and tend to lose focus. It’s not a bad thing, we are simply enjoying all the small things you might not notice.

13. We can’t stand narcissism.

If you are head over heels in love with your reflection, your money, and your ego- just stay away. We really can’t roll our eyes any harder.

14. Certain sounds really bother us.

But it’s not just sounds. Certain textures, fabrics, bright lights and loud noises can really get to us. The polar opposite is true as well. Soft sounds, gentle caresses, and delicate tastes are also highly noticed, but in a pleasant way.

15. We are great listeners.

It’s true. You can tell us anything and everything about your life and we will listen. We will take that journey with you and experience all the highs and lows contained within. And what’s even better, is that we hold no judgement over what you tell us. We are there to help you, not to hurt you.

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Sorting Out the Empathic Experience.

by Nedda Wittels

EMPATHY – my personal definition.

knowing what someone else is feeling because you are feeling it too as a consequence of being in that person’s presence, in their energy field, or connected to their consciousness or the group consciousness of humanity.

 

We all tend to look for ourselves when we see a list like the one Raven Fon created, and I’m no different.  I did find myself in much of this, although not in everything listed.  That’s OK.  We’re each unique, after all.

What surprised me, however, was how I suddenly saw my mother as also an empath.

My mother was a smothering person in my life who couldn’t seem to ever discern that I was separate from her.  She always told me what I liked as if I had no opinions or preferences of my own.  She tried to live through me.  It was very difficult growing up an empath in her presence.

The challenge for any empath is to be able to sort out what they are experiencing.

  1. Is what I’m feeling my own feeling, or someone else’s?
  2. Is it partly my own and partly someone else’s?
  3. Is it coming from the group consciousness of humanity and I’m not personally feeling this at all?

I’ve learned how to sort it all out, and it’s an important survival technique for empaths to be able to make the separation.  It’s necessary to do this in order to stay sane.

But now, having had the insight that my mother was an empath, too, I feel more compassionate and forgiving towards her.   She was an empath who had no support for being that way, no teacher or guide or mentor, and no idea of how to cope with it.  She couldn’t begin to sort it all out, so she became buried under the burden of being flooded with other people’s emotions.

This explains more about her than I ever realized before.

Wow!

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Comments

2 Responses to “Are You an Empath?”
  1. Sherrie Perugini says:

    I too have seen this article, and totally identify with empath lists. I however had never looked over my shoulder and realized that I had a very similar experience with my mom.
    “My mother was a smothering person in my life who couldn’t seem to ever discern that I was separate from her. She always told me what I liked as if I had no opinions or preferences of my own. She tried to live through me. It was very difficult growing up an empath in her presence.”
    Very powerful mirror for me, Thank you. There was for me a difference, she was one of the only people to really see me, “get me” and her support was phenomenal, unless she was needy then it reverted to her opinions, her preferences. What is it they say about the power of intermittent reinforcement. It caused me to waiver in following my own heart at times because in the face of her approval and acceptance I basked, in it’s absence, withered.
    Very interesting in light of the work we did last evening on the phone and things that came up around my Mom.

    Thank you for sharing your insights =)
    Sherrie

  2. Vanessa Briggs says:

    Thank you Nedda,

    Your blog is as inspiring, insightful, thought-provoking, up-lifting and educational as ever! I really appreciate your beautiful contributions…

    Vanessa x

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