Self-Love: How do I love me?

Learning to love myself … seemed like a strange thing to do, at first.  Then I discovered that the old saying is true:

You can’t really love

someone else if you don’t

love yourself.

If my pot of love is empty, I have no love to offer another.

If my pot of love is partially filled, then giving away what’s there leaves me empty, exhausted, unsatisfied, and resentful, and feeling unloved.

If my pot of love is full to overflowing, I can generously give love to others.

For me to love me means I must fill my pot of love to overflowing.  Then I have plenty of love to share with others.

My pot of love.

If I rely on others to fill me up, I’m behaving irresponsibly.  I’m giving away my personal power by failing to acknowledge my own ability to take care of myself, as well as my worthiness to be loved.

When I say, “myself,” I’m not speaking of my “small self” or ego.

I’m speaking of my Divine Self, my I Am Presence.  I no longer see myself as small, helpless, and lacking in value.

I AM the Divine, and I have the POWER to fill myself up with Divine Love.

In this way, I acknowledge my ability to fill my pot of love to overflowing with the abundance of the Divine Love that flows infinitely from Source.

I have the power to fill myself up with love on a regular basis.

So …

How do I love me?

By resting when I need to rest.  By sleeping when I need to sleep.  By eating when I’m hungry, and eating what my body wants and finds nourishing.  This includes chocolate, by the way.  Chocolate is a “food group.”

How do I love me?

I fill myself by staying away from people who insist on being negative about everything, who focus on what’s wrong with everything, and who choose to see disaster everywhere.

By avoiding movies, stories, TV, news, and other things that are all about violence, abuse, and mistreatment of others when I myself am feeling vulnerable.  I already know that the 3-D world is filled with horror.  I don’t need it in my face as a daily serving of malnourishment.

I fill myself by training myself to shift to a positive focus regardless of the situation, to find the gifts and gold nuggets waiting for me everywhere, and to not allow energy vampires to feed on me.

Negativity is draining.

Positivity is filling.

I envison a world I am choosing to live in, one where love, harmony, compassion, tenderness, kindness, generosity, forgiveness, and mental/emotional sanity prevail.

How do I love me?

I speak kindly to myself.  I eliminate negative statements that are habits of thought.  “That was stupid.”  “What a dumb thing to do.  You’ve made a mess again!.”  These types of statements have no place in self-love.

How do I love me?

I tell myself the truth, even when I don’t like the truth.  No more secrets from myself.  No more lies to myself.  This is authenticity, and anything less creates holes in my pot of love allowing the love energy to drain out.

How do I love me?

I tell myself that, wherever I am, it’s the perfect place for me to be in this “now” moment.

Even tho’ my ego, my small self, may not know why I am where I am, my Soul knows.

That means there is more than one benefit to my being wherever it is.

So I seek the lesson instead of wasting energy in resistance or trying to run away.

This moves me through things faster and with less discomfort.  I focus on moving through the turn at the bottom of the curve and see myself emerging up the other side.

It’s like riding a horse.  If you look at the ground, that’s where you land.  If you look ahead, the horse and you fly smoothly forward to where you put your focus.

How do I love me?

I allow myself to be “wrong,” to make mistakes, and to know that I’m still learning, and that learning requires making mistakes.

When I am “wrong” about something, I admit it freely without guilt or recrimination.

How do I love me?

When I go into fear or anxiety, I wrap my arms around my inner child and comfort her with Divine Love.  Her fear and anxiety quickly begin to subside.  Then I get up and move around and do something, anything, to get my body moving.

I also have learned to use flower essences, supplements, and homeopathic remedies to help shift me out of dense emotional patterns.

How do I love me?

By giving to others what I truly have to offer, but only if those others truly want it in the moment I am able and willing to give it.

If someone wants something of me that I don’t have the energy or desire to give to them, I respect myself and them by saying. “No.  I’m not willing to do that.”

Anything else is inauthentic, and unloving to myself, and to them.

Have you checked in on your Pot O’ Love lately?  It it filled to overflowing?

Love is Golden

 

Comments

One Response to “Self-Love: How do I love me?”
  1. Doug Hagens says:

    Well said Nedda. Thank you for sharing the dynamics of loving ourselves. We DO listen to our self talk, and the universe WILL give us what we focus on. If it’s love & abundance & gratitude,life can be SO enjoyable!

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