Are You Tired of Fighting?

March 14, 2017 by  
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You can stop fighting now.

Stop fighting yourself and others.

Stop fighting yourself and others.

I’ve been noticing more and more in the media the word “fight” being used everywhere.

Politicians say, “I will fight for you” or a cause that you might care about.

Fund raising commercials say, “Fight xxxx” – fill in your favorite illness.

Drug companies say, “Fight xxxx with yyyy” – fill in your favorite drug and symptom.

Sports teams say, “Fight, fight fight, fight, fight.”

When our government wants to create fear, it urges us to “fight” and labels everything a “war.”

We’ve had “wars” on poverty, on diseases, on drugs, on terrorism, and most sports are a substitute for going to war.

What have these wars created?

Freedom from the desire to numb yourself with drugs or other addictive behaviors?

Abundance for everyone?

Healthy people?

A good sense of sportsmanship?

The ability to peacefully resolve conflicts?

A world of peace?

I’ve been asking myself lately,

Are you and I being programmed to fight?

“Why do the media fill our heads with such aggressive language?  Why does everything have to be a fight?”

IMAGINE,” said John Lennon.  And so I, too, invite you to imagine a world without having to “fight” for everything.

IMAGINE a world where everyone is respectful of everyone else and no longer blames others for what they don’t like about themselves or for what they don’t like about their own lives.


IMAGINE a world where politicians call for cooperation and no longer use the word “fight” to promote themselves.  Politicians could say, “If you elect me, I’ll do my best to bring peaceful cooperation and problem solving to all of the issues facing us.  I promise to work with all others elected to solve problems, to get things done, and I will urge my colleagues to do the same.”


IMAGINE a world where people are so content and joyful that they don’t need to drug themselves to bury their emotional pain and dissatisfaction.

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired.  I’m tired of fighting.  I’m tired of struggling.  I want things to flow easily and gently in my life.

I am now choosing to stop the internal struggles and internal battles.  You can make the same choice, or not.  It’s entirely up to you.

There are ways to stop the fighting, and the first step is to make the choice.

Once you’ve made the choice to stop the internal battle, you will be shown methods and techniques to help you succeed.

Once you’ve made the choice to find peaceful, cooperative solutions in your daily living, they will appear in your life.

  • You will be guided to them.

  • You will be open to them.

  • You will notice them when they show up.

IMAGINE them coming to you.  See them easily and quickly arriving … the perfect solutions to whatever challenges you are facing.

IMAGINE a world in which each human chooses from his or her own heart to work together to create joyful, creative, loving solutions.  This is a powerful step to creating a world where everyone has food, shelter, and opportunities for personal creativity and spiritual well-being.  This is the world we were meant to live in.

CONSIDER THE HUMAN BODY as a model for peaceful cooperation.

Our physical bodies are a cooperative effort of all our cells and organs.

  • What would it be like if your heart said, “I won’t pump any blood today for the kidneys because they insulted me.”


  • What if your colon said, “I’m tired of cleaning up this garbage without any appreciation.  I’m going to fight to hold onto it.”


  • What if your bone marrow said, “I’m fed up with all the bickering, so I’m not going to produce any blood cells today.”


The body works, stays healthy, and supports our experience on the Earth because all parts cooperate with each other.  If they started bickering and arguing and disrespecting each other, our bodies would sicken and die.

In the same way, humanity is a single being, a single consciousness.  When we connect at that level, cooperation comes more easily and we can accomplish great things.

But today what we seem to be doing is fighting with each other.  As a result of all that fighting, the oceans are dying and the food is all poisoned to some degree (yes, even the organic stuff has chem trail poisons landing on it).

In addition, hundreds of thousands and perhaps millions of humans are homeless, starving, and see no way out of their situation.  This is true inside the United States, although the official media won’t tell you about it.  Do you know about the citizens of this country living under interstate overpasses?  They are not counted among the unemployed.  They are not counted at all.

So it’s time to stop fighting and start appreciating and cooperating with each other.  We have to begin caring about each other.


  1. Am I ready to stop fighting?
  2. What am I fighting inside myself?  Is there a battle raging there?
  3. What am I fighting outside myself?  Am I still trying to win an argument with someone from yesterday?  Last week?  Ten years ago?
  4. How can I make peace within myself?  What parts of myself need me to love them, forgive them, hold them gently and help them feel accepted and safe.
  5. How can I make peace with others outside myself?  Can I forgive them for past grievances?  Even when someone is already out of body, forgiveness can heal you and still give them an opportunity to change.

You don’t have to make all the changes all at once.

All you need do is begin.

Stop fighting yourself.  Become more loving towards yourself.  Be compassionate with yourself.

You can’t change anyone but yourself.  As you change yourself, you interact differently with others.

The energy exchange between you and another will be different.

And then the other person will receive an opportunity to interact with you differently.

Don’t wait for someone else to begin.

Begin with you.

Stop fighting now.

Are You an Empath?

September 5, 2016 by  
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Do You Know Someone

Who’s an Empath?

A friend recently sent me a link to a blog post on being an empath.  When I read the article, it had a powerful effect on me.

So I share the post here with all of you hoping it will give some of  you some important insights.

Clairaudience ... Empathic Hearing


15 Things You’ll Notice When

You’re In The Presence of an Empath

By Raven Fon

“As much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously,
there are some things you’ll notice about us too.”

I remember an instance when I rang the cable company to ask about upgrading my service. After some time had passed, the man I was speaking to had basically poured his heart out about his wife’s battle with cancer.  I never found the information I was looking for, but it wasn’t that important any longer. I had given someone comfort and reassurance- even if they had no idea why they felt the need to tell me this stuff in the first place.

A very similar situation happened when I was out at a restaurant with my niece. I ordered my drink and the next thing I knew, our waiter was asking me how to handle leaving their spouse. There are countless stories like this for me, but I want to know how many you have.

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, defines empathy as this:

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

With empaths, as much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, you’ll notice a few things about us too.

15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re Around an Empath

1. We are accused of being “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths are not “too” anything. They feel things deeply- both positive and negative. They are in touch with their emotions, and yours. Though it might be harder for an empath to operate in a world designed for less-sensitive people, being an empath has several positive aspects.

2. We can’t stand being lied to.

All it takes is a simple glance in your direction to know you are lying to us. A lot of people don’t realize this, but being lied to really sucks for an empath. We feel it ooze into every aspect of the relationship…and it usually ends them.

3. Negative media images directly affect us.

It’s hard, almost impossible, for an empath to “unfeel” something. We avoid the news, and if we see something upsetting, our emotions are a mess for quite a while. Imagine feeling overwhelming sadness and suffering every single time you saw something violent or upsetting on the news. That’s what it is like for us.

4. Crowded places overwhelm us.

Empaths exist in all personality types, including introvert and extrovert, but even the outgoing ones are easily overwhelmed in crowds. The sheer force of energies and feelings you absorb is exhausting. You might like going to concerts and sporting events, but once there, you can’t wait to leave.

5. We love to heal.

Empaths want what is best for you and your wellbeing. Of course, as with all of our advice, it is only helpful if you actually implement it in your life.

6. We are sensitive to stimulants and medications.

Coffee, certain teas, energy drinks, soda- anything with caffeine makes us more anxious and agitated than the rest of the world. And, when it comes to medications, we try to avoid them as much as possible because of the myriad of side effects we experience.

7. We can only be us.

As far as honest people go, empaths are the truest friends you could ask for. We know who we are and we embrace it fully. It’s other people who seem to have an issue with our sensitive nature and honest attitude.

8. We experience what you are experiencing.

If someone we are close to is ill, depressed, or agitated, we display those same symptoms. We are so connected to what you are going through, that we go through it with you.

9. We don’t like animals, we LOVE animals.

Empaths don’t have pets, we have family members. When we see an animal in the wild, we see a soul…perfect and pure. We talk to them in various ways just as you would your best friend, and guess what…they talk back.

10. Tired, exhausted, and fatigued is normal for us.

Because we absorb so much from others, we don’t just dealing with our own emotional and mental drains, we deal with everybody’s.

11. If we give advice, take it.

If we take the time to listen to your dilemma, and give you heartfelt advice, just listen to it. We know what we are talking about and if you ask for our advice and ignore it, well, let’s just say it kinda annoys us to no end.

12. We are easily distracted.

Perhaps it is due to our heightened sensitivity to everything around us, but empaths are easily distracted and tend to lose focus. It’s not a bad thing, we are simply enjoying all the small things you might not notice.

13. We can’t stand narcissism.

If you are head over heels in love with your reflection, your money, and your ego- just stay away. We really can’t roll our eyes any harder.

14. Certain sounds really bother us.

But it’s not just sounds. Certain textures, fabrics, bright lights and loud noises can really get to us. The polar opposite is true as well. Soft sounds, gentle caresses, and delicate tastes are also highly noticed, but in a pleasant way.

15. We are great listeners.

It’s true. You can tell us anything and everything about your life and we will listen. We will take that journey with you and experience all the highs and lows contained within. And what’s even better, is that we hold no judgement over what you tell us. We are there to help you, not to hurt you.

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Sorting Out the Empathic Experience.

by Nedda Wittels

EMPATHY – my personal definition.

knowing what someone else is feeling because you are feeling it too as a consequence of being in that person’s presence, in their energy field, or connected to their consciousness or the group consciousness of humanity.


We all tend to look for ourselves when we see a list like the one Raven Fon created, and I’m no different.  I did find myself in much of this, although not in everything listed.  That’s OK.  We’re each unique, after all.

What surprised me, however, was how I suddenly saw my mother as also an empath.

My mother was a smothering person in my life who couldn’t seem to ever discern that I was separate from her.  She always told me what I liked as if I had no opinions or preferences of my own.  She tried to live through me.  It was very difficult growing up an empath in her presence.

The challenge for any empath is to be able to sort out what they are experiencing.

  1. Is what I’m feeling my own feeling, or someone else’s?
  2. Is it partly my own and partly someone else’s?
  3. Is it coming from the group consciousness of humanity and I’m not personally feeling this at all?

I’ve learned how to sort it all out, and it’s an important survival technique for empaths to be able to make the separation.  It’s necessary to do this in order to stay sane.

But now, having had the insight that my mother was an empath, too, I feel more compassionate and forgiving towards her.   She was an empath who had no support for being that way, no teacher or guide or mentor, and no idea of how to cope with it.  She couldn’t begin to sort it all out, so she became buried under the burden of being flooded with other people’s emotions.

This explains more about her than I ever realized before.


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Celebrating Rain.

July 31, 2016 by  
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Do you remember playing in the rain?

Rain play

When did you last celebrate rain?

When I listen to the weathermen on the radio, I want to call them on the phone and tell them to stop being negative about rain.  [I have yet to find a phone number that will allow me to do this.]

Rain = Life

Rain falling.

Without rain, there is no life. 

Without rain, there is drought, starvation, uncontrollable fires, devastation.

Trees suffer.  Farms suffer.  Insects, birds, all animals suffer.

You and I suffer, too.

Today it is raining, and I’m very thankful.

Here in New England, we’re having a drought.  Oddly, at least to me, most people aren’t paying enough attention.  They’re still watering their lawns and washing their cars as if the water for doing these things and drinking and bathing were limitless.

Potentially, there is limitless water, but for right now, the streams and rivers and reservoirs and wells are all very low.

Why aren’t people paying attention?

Why do they wait for some “authority figure” such as the governor,
to tell them to stop wasting water?

Are they so disconnected from themselves and from nature
that it never even occurs to them that
there might be a problem developing here?

This morning it’s raining … a really lovely sustained rain that steadily is providing the gift of moisture in a way that the soil can absorb it.  Not enough to flood.  Enough to nourish.

I went outside in the rain.  No umbrella.  No rain coat.  Just me in a tank top and shorts and shoes.  I set up a bird bath in the back yard, long overdue, for the birds need to bathe and drink every day, not just now and then.

The rain felt really good on my body … loving and gentle and kind.

The rain makes it smell wonderful outside.

The rain cleanses and heals and nourishes.

Frog enjoying rain.

When we speak negatively about rain, as the weathermen do almost daily when it’s in the forecast, we send out the message that rain is “bad” and that we don’t want it.

How sad for us and for the water spirits and for our planet and all of life here on the Earth.

Of course, rain must be in balance with other elements of nature.

How can we restore that balance?

First, we must awaken to our true connection to the Earth.

Our true connection to the Earth means, in part, that our thoughts and feelings do influence the weather.  After all, we live in the Earth’s emotional body, which means that our emotions are expressed in the weather.

So the next time you hear a weather report that it’s going to rain, notice your reaction and adjust it appropriately.

If a big storm or hurricane is predicted, send it love to calm it and ask the Nature Spirits to assist you.

If a fire seems imminent or has already begun, send love to the fire so that it will feel nourished and won’t need to “eat” so much.  Invite Mother Earth to help restore balance.  Ask the water spirits to assist in sending rain and invite the wind spirits to help calm the fire and turn it back upon itself so it can burn itself out.

We are all out of balance these days, and so is our planet, including the atmosphere/weather.  By taking responsibility to put ourselves back into balance and then calling on Divine Love and focusing clear intention, we can make a difference.

SO …

the next time the weather report includes rain, WELCOME the rain.  Call it into your heart and invite it to help restore balance and harmony.

Then step outside into the rain and celebrate Mother Nature’s gift of water.  Give thanks.  Send heartfelt appreciation for the wonder of rain.  Celebrate rain.

Rain is love falling from the sky.

Rain is love falling from the sky.

Relying on Logic Is Counter-Intuitive Living

March 22, 2016 by  
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Optimal Living Requires

Using Both Sides of Your Brain.

Left-Right Brain Function.

It doesn’t make “sense” to be left-sided.

The right side of the brain is essential

for living a joyful life.

We live in an upside-down, inside-out world in which being logical and rational is highly prized, while being a feeling person is denigrated. ridiculed, stigmatized, and punished.

Why does our society emphasizes logic and being rational and “reasonable?”

Being logical and rational is being like a machine  – a computer –  not like a human being.

Do we value the machine point of view over the human one?

Are we trying to convince ourselves that we should all be more like computers?

Did you know that there are no equivalent words for “be logical.”  You can’t say “be emotionable” or “be feelingable.”

Without the equivalent words, it’s difficult to even speak about this topic.

Have you been called “reactive” because you feel and express strong emotions?

“Reactive” is a pejorative term, expressing disapproval and even contempt.

If you or your behaviors have been labelled “reactive” it means that you are not fitting into the accepted pattern of non-feeling.

Consider another perspective.

  • The ability to feel may be more valuable than the ability to be logical.

  • The ability to feel includes emotions, but is much more expansive.

  • The ability to feel connects us to nature and to our own nature … our spiritual self.

  • It’s more human and more spiritually developed to feel than it is to think logically.

  • Higher brain function is not logical or rational, but rather intuitive, holistic, psychic, and creative.

  • If we valued the ability to feel, we might also value the ability to empathize – to feel what someone else is feeling.

  • If more people were empathic, i.e, able to feel what others are feeling, and if we learned to rely on how situations feel to us, then abuse of humans, children, animals, and all other life forms would dramatically decrease and fade away.

Take steps to get in touch with your feelings.

  1. Listen to the words you speak.  When you say, “I think …” you are in your head, not in your feelings, not in your heart, and not even in the “right” side of your brain.

  2. Change the words you speak.  When you find yourself saying, “I think …”  Stop yourself, say, “I feel ….” and consider how you actually feel.  Then express your feelings as best you can in words.

  3. Notice what others are saying and how they are using language to keep themselves in their logical mind.

  4. Ask yourself, “How does noticing my feelings improve my life?”

These few steps can help you get in touch with your feelings and become more intuitive, more psychic, more creative, and more in touch with your own higher power – your God Self.

Are You Living on Autopilot?

May 20, 2015 by  
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Who’s at the controls?

  Take charge of your
thoughts and feelings.

You’re going along having a pretty good day.  You’re feeling good about yourself and life in general.

Suddenly, something unexpected happens, and your whole mood shifts.

Your first thoughts may be to blame the external event for ruining your day.  That’s how most of us react, but the truth is actually quite different.

Mood shifts actually happen because of

how you assign meaning

to events in your life.

When your thoughts become negative,

you start to feel negative emotions.


“Oops.  I was feeling great a moment ago and now I’m down in the dumps.  My day is ruined.”

Well, guess what?  You day doesn’t have to be “ruined.”  It’s only “ruined” if you decide that it is.

If I were to ask you what changed your mood, you’d probably tell me all about what just happened.  In other words, you’d blame something or someone outside of yourself.  But the truth is that you do have control over what you think and what you feel.

Take back control of your thoughts and feelings.

When you notice that your mood has shifted, use these steps as soon as you can to restore your happier state.

First, notice that your mood has shifted. 

Then ask and answer these questions.

  1. What just happened that I’m blaming for my change in mood?

  2. What were my thoughts about this event?

  3. Can I step out of judgment and think differently about the event?

  4. Can I open to the possibility that there will be a different outcome than I first imagined?

  5. Can I set the intention that there WILL be a different outcome – a WIN/WIN for all concerned?

  6. Can I turn the whole thing over to a higher power (God, the Universe, my I Am Presence) and trust that my request for a positive solution for all with be answered?


Your answers to these questions will lead to some important discoveries.

  1. When you shift your thoughts, your feelings will shift, too.

  2. You are in charge of what you think.  You have choices.

  3. You are in charge of what you feel.

  4. Underneath your emotions, whatever they were, was some underlying fear that was triggered, and you don’t have to allow the fear to control you.

  5. The thought patterns that were evoked are habits of thinking.  Habits can be changed.

  6. When you take back your power over your thoughts and feelings, you feel more empowered in other parts of your life.

Be the awake and alert pilot of your life.Be the awake and alert
pilot of your life.

In the beginning, it may take you several days to do this for just one event.  It depends on how quickly you remember to take action after the trigger event occurred.

Over time, if you continue to do change your thoughts about events,  you’ll be able to do change them sooner and faster.

It won’t take long until you can change your thoughts immediately after something happens.

Ultimately, your goal is to

spontaneously stay in charge of yourself. 

Ultimately, when a trigger event occurs, instead of reacting on autopilot, you’ll stop yourself immediately and create positive thoughts immediately.

You’ll stop blaming others and events for how your feel.  You’ll feel better about yourself and your life because you’ll be more in charge of yourself.

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