Are You an Empath?

September 5, 2016 by  
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Who’s an Empath?

A friend recently sent me a link to a blog post on being an empath.  When I read the article, it had a powerful effect on me.

So I share the post here with all of you hoping it will give some of  you some important insights.

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15 Things You’ll Notice When

You’re In The Presence of an Empath

By Raven Fon

“As much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously,
there are some things you’ll notice about us too.”

I remember an instance when I rang the cable company to ask about upgrading my service. After some time had passed, the man I was speaking to had basically poured his heart out about his wife’s battle with cancer.  I never found the information I was looking for, but it wasn’t that important any longer. I had given someone comfort and reassurance- even if they had no idea why they felt the need to tell me this stuff in the first place.

A very similar situation happened when I was out at a restaurant with my niece. I ordered my drink and the next thing I knew, our waiter was asking me how to handle leaving their spouse. There are countless stories like this for me, but I want to know how many you have.

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, defines empathy as this:

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

With empaths, as much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, you’ll notice a few things about us too.

15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re Around an Empath

1. We are accused of being “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths are not “too” anything. They feel things deeply- both positive and negative. They are in touch with their emotions, and yours. Though it might be harder for an empath to operate in a world designed for less-sensitive people, being an empath has several positive aspects.

2. We can’t stand being lied to.

All it takes is a simple glance in your direction to know you are lying to us. A lot of people don’t realize this, but being lied to really sucks for an empath. We feel it ooze into every aspect of the relationship…and it usually ends them.

3. Negative media images directly affect us.

It’s hard, almost impossible, for an empath to “unfeel” something. We avoid the news, and if we see something upsetting, our emotions are a mess for quite a while. Imagine feeling overwhelming sadness and suffering every single time you saw something violent or upsetting on the news. That’s what it is like for us.

4. Crowded places overwhelm us.

Empaths exist in all personality types, including introvert and extrovert, but even the outgoing ones are easily overwhelmed in crowds. The sheer force of energies and feelings you absorb is exhausting. You might like going to concerts and sporting events, but once there, you can’t wait to leave.

5. We love to heal.

Empaths want what is best for you and your wellbeing. Of course, as with all of our advice, it is only helpful if you actually implement it in your life.

6. We are sensitive to stimulants and medications.

Coffee, certain teas, energy drinks, soda- anything with caffeine makes us more anxious and agitated than the rest of the world. And, when it comes to medications, we try to avoid them as much as possible because of the myriad of side effects we experience.

7. We can only be us.

As far as honest people go, empaths are the truest friends you could ask for. We know who we are and we embrace it fully. It’s other people who seem to have an issue with our sensitive nature and honest attitude.

8. We experience what you are experiencing.

If someone we are close to is ill, depressed, or agitated, we display those same symptoms. We are so connected to what you are going through, that we go through it with you.

9. We don’t like animals, we LOVE animals.

Empaths don’t have pets, we have family members. When we see an animal in the wild, we see a soul…perfect and pure. We talk to them in various ways just as you would your best friend, and guess what…they talk back.

10. Tired, exhausted, and fatigued is normal for us.

Because we absorb so much from others, we don’t just dealing with our own emotional and mental drains, we deal with everybody’s.

11. If we give advice, take it.

If we take the time to listen to your dilemma, and give you heartfelt advice, just listen to it. We know what we are talking about and if you ask for our advice and ignore it, well, let’s just say it kinda annoys us to no end.

12. We are easily distracted.

Perhaps it is due to our heightened sensitivity to everything around us, but empaths are easily distracted and tend to lose focus. It’s not a bad thing, we are simply enjoying all the small things you might not notice.

13. We can’t stand narcissism.

If you are head over heels in love with your reflection, your money, and your ego- just stay away. We really can’t roll our eyes any harder.

14. Certain sounds really bother us.

But it’s not just sounds. Certain textures, fabrics, bright lights and loud noises can really get to us. The polar opposite is true as well. Soft sounds, gentle caresses, and delicate tastes are also highly noticed, but in a pleasant way.

15. We are great listeners.

It’s true. You can tell us anything and everything about your life and we will listen. We will take that journey with you and experience all the highs and lows contained within. And what’s even better, is that we hold no judgement over what you tell us. We are there to help you, not to hurt you.

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Sorting Out the Empathic Experience.

by Nedda Wittels

EMPATHY – my personal definition.

knowing what someone else is feeling because you are feeling it too as a consequence of being in that person’s presence, in their energy field, or connected to their consciousness or the group consciousness of humanity.


We all tend to look for ourselves when we see a list like the one Raven Fon created, and I’m no different.  I did find myself in much of this, although not in everything listed.  That’s OK.  We’re each unique, after all.

What surprised me, however, was how I suddenly saw my mother as also an empath.

My mother was a smothering person in my life who couldn’t seem to ever discern that I was separate from her.  She always told me what I liked as if I had no opinions or preferences of my own.  She tried to live through me.  It was very difficult growing up an empath in her presence.

The challenge for any empath is to be able to sort out what they are experiencing.

  1. Is what I’m feeling my own feeling, or someone else’s?
  2. Is it partly my own and partly someone else’s?
  3. Is it coming from the group consciousness of humanity and I’m not personally feeling this at all?

I’ve learned how to sort it all out, and it’s an important survival technique for empaths to be able to make the separation.  It’s necessary to do this in order to stay sane.

But now, having had the insight that my mother was an empath, too, I feel more compassionate and forgiving towards her.   She was an empath who had no support for being that way, no teacher or guide or mentor, and no idea of how to cope with it.  She couldn’t begin to sort it all out, so she became buried under the burden of being flooded with other people’s emotions.

This explains more about her than I ever realized before.


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Celebrating Rain.

July 31, 2016 by  
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Do you remember playing in the rain?

Rain play

When did you last celebrate rain?

When I listen to the weathermen on the radio, I want to call them on the phone and tell them to stop being negative about rain.  [I have yet to find a phone number that will allow me to do this.]

Rain = Life

Rain falling.

Without rain, there is no life. 

Without rain, there is drought, starvation, uncontrollable fires, devastation.

Trees suffer.  Farms suffer.  Insects, birds, all animals suffer.

You and I suffer, too.

Today it is raining, and I’m very thankful.

Here in New England, we’re having a drought.  Oddly, at least to me, most people aren’t paying enough attention.  They’re still watering their lawns and washing their cars as if the water for doing these things and drinking and bathing were limitless.

Potentially, there is limitless water, but for right now, the streams and rivers and reservoirs and wells are all very low.

Why aren’t people paying attention?

Why do they wait for some “authority figure” such as the governor,
to tell them to stop wasting water?

Are they so disconnected from themselves and from nature
that it never even occurs to them that
there might be a problem developing here?

This morning it’s raining … a really lovely sustained rain that steadily is providing the gift of moisture in a way that the soil can absorb it.  Not enough to flood.  Enough to nourish.

I went outside in the rain.  No umbrella.  No rain coat.  Just me in a tank top and shorts and shoes.  I set up a bird bath in the back yard, long overdue, for the birds need to bathe and drink every day, not just now and then.

The rain felt really good on my body … loving and gentle and kind.

The rain makes it smell wonderful outside.

The rain cleanses and heals and nourishes.

Frog enjoying rain.

When we speak negatively about rain, as the weathermen do almost daily when it’s in the forecast, we send out the message that rain is “bad” and that we don’t want it.

How sad for us and for the water spirits and for our planet and all of life here on the Earth.

Of course, rain must be in balance with other elements of nature.

How can we restore that balance?

First, we must awaken to our true connection to the Earth.

Our true connection to the Earth means, in part, that our thoughts and feelings do influence the weather.  After all, we live in the Earth’s emotional body, which means that our emotions are expressed in the weather.

So the next time you hear a weather report that it’s going to rain, notice your reaction and adjust it appropriately.

If a big storm or hurricane is predicted, send it love to calm it and ask the Nature Spirits to assist you.

If a fire seems imminent or has already begun, send love to the fire so that it will feel nourished and won’t need to “eat” so much.  Invite Mother Earth to help restore balance.  Ask the water spirits to assist in sending rain and invite the wind spirits to help calm the fire and turn it back upon itself so it can burn itself out.

We are all out of balance these days, and so is our planet, including the atmosphere/weather.  By taking responsibility to put ourselves back into balance and then calling on Divine Love and focusing clear intention, we can make a difference.

SO …

the next time the weather report includes rain, WELCOME the rain.  Call it into your heart and invite it to help restore balance and harmony.

Then step outside into the rain and celebrate Mother Nature’s gift of water.  Give thanks.  Send heartfelt appreciation for the wonder of rain.  Celebrate rain.

Rain is love falling from the sky.

Rain is love falling from the sky.

Relying on Logic Is Counter-Intuitive Living

March 22, 2016 by  
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Optimal Living Requires

Using Both Sides of Your Brain.

Left-Right Brain Function.

It doesn’t make “sense” to be left-sided.

The right side of the brain is essential

for living a joyful life.

We live in an upside-down, inside-out world in which being logical and rational is highly prized, while being a feeling person is denigrated. ridiculed, stigmatized, and punished.

Why does our society emphasizes logic and being rational and “reasonable?”

Being logical and rational is being like a machine  – a computer –  not like a human being.

Do we value the machine point of view over the human one?

Are we trying to convince ourselves that we should all be more like computers?

Did you know that there are no equivalent words for “be logical.”  You can’t say “be emotionable” or “be feelingable.”

Without the equivalent words, it’s difficult to even speak about this topic.

Have you been called “reactive” because you feel and express strong emotions?

“Reactive” is a pejorative term, expressing disapproval and even contempt.

If you or your behaviors have been labelled “reactive” it means that you are not fitting into the accepted pattern of non-feeling.

Consider another perspective.

  • The ability to feel may be more valuable than the ability to be logical.

  • The ability to feel includes emotions, but is much more expansive.

  • The ability to feel connects us to nature and to our own nature … our spiritual self.

  • It’s more human and more spiritually developed to feel than it is to think logically.

  • Higher brain function is not logical or rational, but rather intuitive, holistic, psychic, and creative.

  • If we valued the ability to feel, we might also value the ability to empathize – to feel what someone else is feeling.

  • If more people were empathic, i.e, able to feel what others are feeling, and if we learned to rely on how situations feel to us, then abuse of humans, children, animals, and all other life forms would dramatically decrease and fade away.

Take steps to get in touch with your feelings.

  1. Listen to the words you speak.  When you say, “I think …” you are in your head, not in your feelings, not in your heart, and not even in the “right” side of your brain.

  2. Change the words you speak.  When you find yourself saying, “I think …”  Stop yourself, say, “I feel ….” and consider how you actually feel.  Then express your feelings as best you can in words.

  3. Notice what others are saying and how they are using language to keep themselves in their logical mind.

  4. Ask yourself, “How does noticing my feelings improve my life?”

These few steps can help you get in touch with your feelings and become more intuitive, more psychic, more creative, and more in touch with your own higher power – your God Self.

Are You Living on Autopilot?

May 20, 2015 by  
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Who’s at the controls?

  Take charge of your
thoughts and feelings.

You’re going along having a pretty good day.  You’re feeling good about yourself and life in general.

Suddenly, something unexpected happens, and your whole mood shifts.

Your first thoughts may be to blame the external event for ruining your day.  That’s how most of us react, but the truth is actually quite different.

Mood shifts actually happen because of

how you assign meaning

to events in your life.

When your thoughts become negative,

you start to feel negative emotions.


“Oops.  I was feeling great a moment ago and now I’m down in the dumps.  My day is ruined.”

Well, guess what?  You day doesn’t have to be “ruined.”  It’s only “ruined” if you decide that it is.

If I were to ask you what changed your mood, you’d probably tell me all about what just happened.  In other words, you’d blame something or someone outside of yourself.  But the truth is that you do have control over what you think and what you feel.

Take back control of your thoughts and feelings.

When you notice that your mood has shifted, use these steps as soon as you can to restore your happier state.

First, notice that your mood has shifted. 

Then ask and answer these questions.

  1. What just happened that I’m blaming for my change in mood?

  2. What were my thoughts about this event?

  3. Can I step out of judgment and think differently about the event?

  4. Can I open to the possibility that there will be a different outcome than I first imagined?

  5. Can I set the intention that there WILL be a different outcome – a WIN/WIN for all concerned?

  6. Can I turn the whole thing over to a higher power (God, the Universe, my I Am Presence) and trust that my request for a positive solution for all with be answered?


Your answers to these questions will lead to some important discoveries.

  1. When you shift your thoughts, your feelings will shift, too.

  2. You are in charge of what you think.  You have choices.

  3. You are in charge of what you feel.

  4. Underneath your emotions, whatever they were, was some underlying fear that was triggered, and you don’t have to allow the fear to control you.

  5. The thought patterns that were evoked are habits of thinking.  Habits can be changed.

  6. When you take back your power over your thoughts and feelings, you feel more empowered in other parts of your life.

Be the awake and alert pilot of your life.Be the awake and alert
pilot of your life.

In the beginning, it may take you several days to do this for just one event.  It depends on how quickly you remember to take action after the trigger event occurred.

Over time, if you continue to do change your thoughts about events,  you’ll be able to do change them sooner and faster.

It won’t take long until you can change your thoughts immediately after something happens.

Ultimately, your goal is to

spontaneously stay in charge of yourself. 

Ultimately, when a trigger event occurs, instead of reacting on autopilot, you’ll stop yourself immediately and create positive thoughts immediately.

You’ll stop blaming others and events for how your feel.  You’ll feel better about yourself and your life because you’ll be more in charge of yourself.

Celebrate the Divine Mother.

May 6, 2015 by  
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The Divine Mother Is in All of Us.

© Nedda Wittels, 2015.

Learning to Nurture Ourselves.Learning to Nurture Ourselves.

Mother’s Day was originally viewed as a sacred holiday honoring the Divine Feminine Principle.

Divine Mothers come in all sizes and species.Divine Mothers come in all sizes
and species.

The Divine Feminine Principle exists within all of us.  We may celebrate Mother’s Day by doing nice things for our biological (or adopted or foster) mother and/or grandmother, but if someone hasn’t ever given birth, we don’t think of them as a mother.  We also don’t take time on Mother’s Day to honor Mother Earth.

The ability to mother is actually learned.  Babies of humans and other mammals are unable to nurture young that they produce when they have not received appropriate nurturing from a member of their own species.  So being a mother is not about biologically producing an offspring.  That is too limited a perspective.

We can choose to restore the more sacred aspect of Mother’s Day by honoring the Divine Feminine that exists in all of us, males and females alike.  The place to begin, as always, is within yourself.

How do you celebrate your own inner Divine Feminine?

Begin by honoring yourself this Mother’s Day.  Make a commitment to nurture yourself more.  Not sure how to do that?

Ask yourself, ‘What makes me feel nurtured?”  Then be silent and listen to your inner voice.

Then make a commitment to care for yourself as a mother would, and to begin this Mother’s Day.

  • You could get a massage or spend a day at a spa.
  • You might decide not to cook for a day.
  • You could eat foods that take you back to a time when you were being cared for by a motherly or grandmotherly figure from your childhood.
  • Feeling a call to spend time in nature?   Why not invite Mother Earth to hold you in her arms for a while and nurture you.
  • Maybe you’ll just take the day to do exactly what you feel like doing, spontaneously, in the now moment.

Whatever you hear from your inner voice, go with it.  Celebrate the mother energy within you.

Nurturing is important for everyone.Nurturing is important for every child, including our own inner children.

Then – share your new perspective with others by celebrating their Divine Feminine.

You can send Mother’s Day cards or make calls to women friends and family who have never given birth to a child, and wish them a happy Mother’s Day.  Tell them that you’re celebrating the Divine Mother in them.  Notice how they respond.  Perhaps some of them will get the idea that celebrating Mother’s Day doesn’t have to be limited in the way we have previously done it.

Men also carry the Divine Feminine Principle.

You can wish Happy Mother’s Day to men you know, for they, too. carry the Divine Feminine energies.

Males also carry the Divine Feminine. Males also carry the Divine Feminine.

Many men are getting in touch with the Divine Feminine within themselves.  This is difficult for most men because of their earlier conditioning.

Men – you don’t have to be gay to get in touch with your Divine Feminine, and it doesn’t mean that you are gay if you choose to do so.  All men, gay and straight, have the Divine Feminine within.  This has nothing to do with sex, sexuality, or sexual preferences.

During this period of spiritual awakening and ascension, all men and all women are being invited to create a new energetic balance of the male and female chi within themselves.

So let the men in your life know that you recognize and honor the creative, fertile, nurturing spark within them.  Some may laugh.  Some may take offense.  Others may pause and consider that this is OK and can even be fun.

Earth Mother.Earth Mother.


Finally, what might it mean for the healing of our planet if we restored the celebration of the Divine Mother to include the Earth and all living beings who dwell here?

Yes, I know … Earth Day is a separate holiday, but that doesn’t mean that the earth isn’t our own Divine Mother, too.  We can celebrate her on Mother’s Day by holding her in our hearts and acknowledging that without her we would not be here on this planet, in these bodies, to experience the beauty of our lives.

So Mother’s Day is truly for everyone.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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