Do You Expect Others to Love You
More Than You Love Yourself?
There is a well-known poem by Elizabeth Barrett Browning that begins,
How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
my soul can reach….
Can you imagine what it is like to be loved this way?
Can you imagine what it is like to love yourself this way?
To love yourself completely, without judgment, is a practice, and it’s time for each of us to begin living not only from our hearts, but from a space of pure love, the kind that has no limitations, no boundaries, no judgment.
Are you ready?
Here’s one way to get started.
I, [insert name], hereby pledge myself to self-love.
As of today, [insert date], I promise myself that I will daily practice self-love in these ways.
- I will tell myself, “I love you” 3 times while looking into my eyes and thinking of someone else I love without limitation. (This can be a human, animal, or divine being.)
- I will think of something I truly like and appreciate about myself and will write it down and post it on a wall. (Use post-it notes, so that each day you can add a new one.)
- I will forgive myself for something that I don’t like about myself and post it on a forgiveness chart.
- I will be kind to myself by catching myself each time I have a negative thought or make a negative remark in my head or out loud, and instead hugging myself and telling myself that I love myself just as I am.
It’s OK to make mistakes.
Do you believe that?
How else will you learn?
So if you take this pledge and then “forget” to do it,
there’s no need to get all in a tizzy and down on yourself.
Just begin again!
The world has not ended, and you have not proven how terrible you are.
What a perfect opportunity to learn forgiveness!!
Please share your thoughts by posting them in the comments portion of this blog.
Kindness Is Strength.
For those of us who spend time and energy sending ourselves all kinds of negative messages about ourselves, I am about to issue a challenge.
The challenge is this:
For the next 2 weeks,
do something KIND for yourself every day,
namely . . .
spend 10-15 minutes remembering
acts of kindness, goodness, and caring
that you’ve done in the past.
If nothing comes to mind, remember
a quality you have that you like about yourself
or an ability you have that you appreciate.
If still nothing comes to mind, reflect on
the rightness and beauty of your
desire for happiness.
Now this may seem easy. It certainly ought to be easy. BUT . . .
We’ve been so programmed to think that if there is something we admire about ourselves, that’s a sign of selfishness. My reply to this is:
One of the biggest problems each of us has right now is lack of self love. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t fully love another.
So this exercise is a great way to discover things within yourself that you can easily love.
It’s also a great way to shift your focused to the positive, isn’t it?
One way to do this exercise is to do it from your heart space, thus quieting the mental chatter.
Sharon Salzberg wrote in Loving-Kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness,
Anger generated within ourselves or within others can be met with love; the love is not ruined by the anger…. The loving mind can observe joy and peace in one moment, and then grief in the next moment, and it will not be shattered by the change. A mind filled with love can be likened to the sky with a variety of clouds moving through it — some light and fluffy, others ominous and threatening. No matter what the situation, the sky is not affected by the clouds. It is free.
We are each free to focus our awareness wherever we choose. We can choose to focus on love and kindness, or on anger and fear. When we take the time to focus on love and on being kind to ourselves and others, the anger and fear within us starts to dissolve and fade.
Nothing outside of you can prevent love, as long as you do not give away your power to others. When you make someone else responsible for how you feel and how you behave, you give away your power to choose.
When someone says, “What made you angry?” they are implying that things outside of us make us feel a particular way. That’s not really the way things work. We can choose to be afraid or we can choose to be angry because of what someone else does or doesn’t do. — OR — We can choose to stay in the love and just allow their poor behavior to flow past us – to not allow it to affect us at all. It’s our personal choice.
We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean you are a bad person. I love you anyway.”
— OR —
We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean I have to have bad manners, too.”
— OR —
We can think, “This person with bad manners is badly in need of love. I will send them some.”
Then, we can open our hearts and send them love.
Learning to do this on a regular basis requires practice.
So if you decide to take this challenge, please add the wonderful things you discover about yourself as a comment to this blog post.
The Practicalities of Making Changes
When I get up in the morning, I have 3 hungry felines demanding breakfast. The first thing I do is feed them. Then I can have my cup of tea, or so I imagine.
But when I sit down with my tea, Sakhara insists on being in my lap, getting brushed, and being cuddled. Starlight wants to play. Fortunately, Violet likes to meditate, and only sometimes insists on doing that in my lap.
That cup of tea is what gets me going so I can do the 1,001 things that demand my attention in the morning. I get up at 4 or 4:30 or 5 a.m. If I’m lucky, I eat breakfast before 8 a.m. Where does the time go?
It’s not important for you to know the detailed list of activities that go on here every morning. What’s important for me, and for you, too, is to recognize when our lives are being taken over by the daily necessities that distract us from what’s important.
Until I have all those things finished, I don’t find time for me. I work at home. I don’t have to commute anywhere. Still, the mornings are full and I often am challenged to find the time to take care of me.
Is that heart-centered living?
Is that loving myself?
Yet, somehow, we’re supposed to be learning how to live from our hearts.
How do we manage that in a practical way?
When we first begin something new, it can be challenging to make adjustments. Old habits push new activities aside. Family members insist that we don’t change, even animal family members. They challenge us to mean what we say and to say what we mean, and then to follow through with some consistency.
This morning, I got up at 4 a.m. just to drink some water, and before I knew it the day took off, not without me, but it certainly felt that way.
So as I begin teaching Heart Centered Living this Saturday morning, I’m wondering how my life will change – at the detail level – when I’m living totally from my heart.
Maybe the routines won’t change, but how I feel about them will change?
Maybe clarity and focus will become easier?
Maybe the sun will rise in the west and set in the east?
I’m about to find out.
I’m opening my heart to discover where to begin. I know my heart will guide me.
Perhaps the first step is to begin the day in my heart and to end the day there as well. Then being heart centered may just expand outward to fill the rest of my life.
Your Heart is Undergoing an Alchemical Change
The Source Field from which all consciousness emanates is in the process of renovating our hearts. If you are able to tune in to the feeling aspect of your being, you will notice these changes taking place right now.
If you are already someone who lives by the guided intelligence of your heart-brain, you probably are aware that something unprecedented is happening both inside you and around you.
Your heart knows truth.
Whatever has been invisible or hidden in the past can now be easily revealed through your heart. You are beginning to “see, feel, allow, imagine” the true nature of your heart center. Thus, your understanding of reality is undergoing a dramatic shift.
You will no longer be fooled by attempts to distort and hide truths from you.
You will feel and know that God Consciousness is being breathed into you in each breath you take.
You will recognize the presence of the Divine Mother within your heart, and you will welcome the expansion of Divine Love within you.
In many artistic representations of the Ascended Masters, their heart is shown glowing with Light. Light and Love are radiating our from their heart centers.
This is visible Light. You can see this Light.
When your heart center is fully restored to it’s pristine perfection, you, too, will radiate Divine Love and Divine Light from your Heart.
Doing so will be natural.
It won’t be something you have to work at.
It will just be SO!
The Divine Feminine – Divine Mother aspect of ALL-THAT-IS lives in your heart center. She is there right now, awaiting your conscious presence. She is there to teach you about loving yourself and others. She is there to show you all the ways to heal your heart of past hurts, old memories of betrayal and pain, and of the darkness that you’ve been hiding from yourself inside your heart.
Bring yourself and your heart back into the Light.
You can heal everything!
Creating the Heart Habit
The latest message we have been given about our hearts is to go there every day, several times each day.
Spend time in your Heart.
Explore your Heart Center.
Become Heart Centered.
Make decisions from your Heart.
This message has been around for nearly a year and maybe a bit longer. Now a subtle and important change is about to take place.
Being in our hearts must become
the normal, natural way to live.
Getting into our hearts has required effort in the past, but soon it will not because we will have established our conscious presence there to the degree that we will just remain in our hearts all the time.
Many people have been speaking about the Heart “brain.” My “I Am Presence” tells me:
Think from your heart mean to allow your heart to rule. The heart is gentle, kind, and loving. The physical brain is like a computer: harsh, cold, and indifferent.
The brain can easily be manipulated by the ego, but the heart remains pure.
You are wondering how this statement can be true?
When it appears that the heart has been manipulated, that is the ego seeking to fool you into letting it rule. When you are truly in your heart, the ego has no control because your inner Love can sooth, calm, and heal the ego. This is why the ego seeks to keep you turned outward so that you don’t spend time in your heart.
Go within — into the heart — and know the freedom, the joy, and the bliss of being in and living from your heart.
BE THE LOVE.
What does it take to get us to the place where we are fully living in and from the heart?
- It takes commitment.
- It takes practice – going into the heart center every day – several times a day.
- It takes takes letting go of resistance to loving ourselves.
- It takes dedication to being in gratitude and appreciation.
- It takes determination to love ourselves.
- It takes forgiveness – forgiving ourselves for EVERYTHING.
- It takes loving ourselves – despite our limitations and faults.
We CAN heal ourselves completely.
We CAN return to being connected to our God Self.
We ARE doing it, folks. Truly, we ARE!!