Just How Grateful Can You Be?

November 8, 2017 by  
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This is the season for Gratitude.

"Thank you" written in sand.

It’s easy to be thankful, to feel gratitude, for things we receive that we recognize immediately as gifts.

Can you also be grateful for whatever comes into your life that appears in the form of a challenge?

Bunny peeking out of a hat.


A present that someone sends you, wrapped or unwrapped, that you get to open and go “Oooh” and “Aaah” easily evokes gratitude, especially when it’s unexpected and something you’ll enjoy.

It’s easy to be grateful for having a warm home, for having plenty of food, and loving companions, whether human or animal — if only you remember to appreciate the “little” things that are not so little at all.

The not-so-easy part are the gifts that come in unexpected forms with unexpected qualities that challenge you.

Such a gift may seem harsh or uncomfortable at first.

Such a gift may push your buttons, evoke fear or anxiety, anger, or even jealousy.

“What?”  you ask in astonishment.

“Was that truly a gift when so-and-so was rude to me?

Was it a gift when I discovered that my car wouldn’t start or the person who was supposed to meet me for dinner didn’t show up and didn’t call?

How can it be a gift when someone bullies me or gossips about me?”

We may not recognize it as a gift, at first, when we are treated badly or when something happens that pushes our buttons, .

We may be so caught up in our emotional response that all we can do in that moment is feel our denser emotions surging.

Only in retrospect may we recognize that the experience is an opportunity for gratitude.

Every experience is an opportunity for gratitude.

Stop and consider.   Somewhere inside each situation a gift awaits you.  And not only one gift, but perhaps even two or three . . . or more.

These are what I call Seeds of Equivalent Benefit.

These “seeds” are gifts that may need time to grow.  They may be hidden, at first, so tiny that your eyes cannot see them, but their presence is certain.

  • Perhaps the gift is to discover who your real friends are.
  • Perhaps the gift encourages you to find your inner courage and to step forward into that courage in a new and more powerful way.
  • Perhaps the gift is an opportunity for you to put aside something that you are strongly attached to in order to discover the freedom of non-attachment.
  • Perhaps the gift is to learn to trust that the Universe (God, Goddess, All That Is) is right there taking care of you, if only you open yourself to receive these blessings.

These are only a few of the true gifts of life’s challenges.

When we open our hearts through gratitude to receive them, we begin to find joy and peace within ourselves, as well as our inner strengths.

To discover hidden gifts, stop the chatter in your head about how terrible the situation is or was, and open yourself and your heart to gratitude.

When you say,

I Am Grateful  for the gifts I’m about to receive.

I trust that gifts hidden in this situation are about to appear.

Thank you.  Thank you.  Thank you.

With the expression of gratitude you are watering and nourishing each Seed of Equivalent Benefit.

Gratitude shines the Light of your Soul upon each seed like the sun shines on a garden.

When you do that, the seeds immediately begin to sprout.

As long as you remain grateful for them and remain open to receiving them, they will appear in your life.

Some will manifest sooner than others, but all will bear fruit.

Once you receive them, you will find yourself naturally feeling even more gratitude.

Seeds of Equivalent Benefit flowering.




So, just how grateful can you be?

This holiday season, give yourself the gift of gratitude.

Be grateful for all that has not yet appeared.

Be grateful for all the challenges, too.

Do not ask for anything specific.

Just express gratitude every day and then observe what happens.

You may be AMAZED!

A Love Letter

November 3, 2017 by  
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From My Heart to Your Heart,

From my heart to your heart.

May we recognize the Divine Love’s presence.

May we see each other as One.

My Dear One,

Is there someone in your life, a friend or relative, whom you find it difficult to love?

Perhaps this person was unkind to you, even bullied or abused you in the past.

When you think about this person, love is not what you feel. You may feel anger, rage, even hatred.  You may have other strong uncomfortable feelings that come up as well.

What is holding you stuck in these old feelings?

How can you release them and move into a space of love?

After all, when you feel these feelings, the other person isn’t feeling them.

It’s YOU who are being held in the chains of old pains and old emotions.

One of my mother’s sisters died recently. Even tho’ I’ve know for years and years that she hurt me deeply when I was a child, I was not motivated to address my feelings about her.  Instead, I’ve just avoided her for decades.

Now, she’s in spirit and I find that I cannot remember even one kind or generous thing that she did for me or anyone else. My heart is full of pain, not love.

This woman was a bully. I have clear memories of her bullying her husband. “Honey, drop dead!” she would say to this gentle soul.

She bullied her eldest son into believing he was stupid, even though he was of average intelligence.  Can you imagine how this affected his life?

She bullied her daughter into becoming a chain smoker.

She bullied her two other sons until one of them moved 3,000 miles away just to feel free of her.

She bullied me, too, even though I wasn’t her own child.

Every time she visited us or we visited her family, she was horrible to me.  I used to hide in my bedroom when she came to our home until my mother would drag me out to greet her and her family.

So now she’s in spirit, and I struggle to find some way to forgive her so that I no longer am burdened by my feelings.

At first, my ego kicked in, and I became mean.

I began imagining her Life Review in the spirit realm.

“Well, well,” I said to her in spirit.  “Finally you will finally learn how much you have hurt others.  You will feel their pain yourself.  Good.  Long overdue!”

These thoughts carried no compassion at all.

Observing myself behaving this way, I was determined to make a change in how I felt.  But what could I do?

When I find I cannot feel love for someone, I know that the problem is mine and that the limitation is inside me.

If I just blame the other person, nothing will change.

If I own up to my feelings and ask for higher guidance to heal myself, to forgive myself for having this person in my life, I will eventually become free.

When I remember that I’m the one who must change, then I’m ready to step forward and make those changes.

I remembered that people who are bullies and abusrs have been bullied and abused as children themselves.

They are IN PAIN!

Children Learn What They Live.

When children are bullied and abused, they often become bullies and abusers, especially as adults.

When children are bullied, they are small and they feel even smaller.   They feel they have no power, and often that is the reality of their situation.

When they grow up and become physically bigger and stronger, they rationalize that it’s their turn to wield the power.

Some of them actually go into a trance state when they abuse others – the same trance state that they used in childhood to escape the abuse they were receiving.

Remembering these things and asking my I Am Presence to help me release my negative feelings about my aunt shifted me completely.

Within 24 hours, I could think about her and feel compassion.  I could say to myself, “She must have been in terrible pain all her life to treat others so badly, especially the people she loved the most:  her husband and children.”

I now feel free from my old resentments towards my aunt, and I wish her well.

When I am completely free of all my old, dense emotional patterns, I’ll be able to love everyone.

Some of the masters say that this is the greatest spiritual practice:

Love Everyone.

To “Love Everyone” I must find a way to love myself fully, without judgment or limitation, without guilt or remorse.

When I shifted my perspective, I became able to see this lesson as a gift from my departed aunt.

It allowed me to feel forgiveness and love for her.

So this is my Love Letter.

I’m sending this Love Letter to my aunt in spirit and to myself, here on Earth.

I’m also sending Love to you and everyone else still finding their way through the jungles of Third Dimensional Density.

There IS Light at the end of the Path.

And most importantly,

there is Love all along the Way.


Kindness and Self-Love.

July 7, 2014 by  
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Do You Expect Others to Love You

More Than You Love Yourself?

loving partners

There is a well-known poem by Elizabeth Barrett Browning that begins,

How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
my soul can reach….

Can you imagine what it is like to be loved this way?

Can you imagine what it is like to love yourself this way?

To love yourself completely, without judgment, is a practice, and it’s time for each of us to begin living not only from our hearts, but from a space of pure love, the kind that has no limitations, no boundaries, no judgment.

Are you ready?

Here’s one way to get started.

I, [insert name], hereby pledge myself to self-love.

As of today, [insert date], I promise myself that I will daily practice self-love in these ways.

  1. I will tell myself, “I love you” 3 times while looking into my eyes and thinking of someone else I love without limitation.  (This can be a human, animal, or divine being.)
  2. I will think of something I truly like and appreciate about myself and will write it down and post it on a wall.  (Use post-it notes, so that each day you can add a new one.)
  3. I will forgive myself for something that I don’t like about myself and post it on a forgiveness chart.
  4. I will be kind to myself by catching myself each time I have a negative thought or make a negative remark in my head or out loud, and instead hugging myself and telling myself that I love myself just as I am.

Signed:  ____________________

It’s OK to make mistakes. 

Do you believe that?

How else will you learn?

So if you take this pledge and then “forget” to do it,

there’s no need to get all in a tizzy and down on yourself.

Just begin again!

The world has not ended, and you have not proven how terrible you are.

What a perfect opportunity to learn forgiveness!!

Please share your thoughts by posting them in the comments portion of this blog.

Practice Kindness.

July 6, 2014 by  
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Kindness Is Strength.

free hug

For those of us who spend time and energy sending ourselves all kinds of negative messages about ourselves, I am about to issue a challenge.

The challenge is this:

For the next 2 weeks,

do something KIND for yourself every day,

namely . . .

spend 10-15 minutes remembering

acts of kindness, goodness, and caring

that you’ve done in the past.

If nothing comes to mind, remember

a quality you have that you like about yourself

or an ability you have that you appreciate.

If still nothing comes to mind, reflect on

the rightness and beauty of your

desire for happiness.


Now this may seem easy.  It certainly ought to be easy.  BUT . . .

We’ve been so programmed to think that if there is something we admire about ourselves, that’s a sign of selfishness.  My reply to this is:


One of the biggest problems each of us has right now is lack of self love.  If you don’t love yourself, you can’t fully love another.

So this exercise is a great way to discover things within yourself that you can easily love.

It’s also a great way to shift your focused to the positive, isn’t it?

One way to do this exercise is to do it from your heart space, thus quieting the mental chatter.

Sharon Salzberg wrote in Loving-Kindness:  The Revolutionary Art of Happiness,

Anger generated within ourselves or within others can be met with love; the love is not ruined by the anger…. The loving mind can observe joy and peace in one moment, and then grief in the next moment, and it will not be shattered by the change.  A mind filled with love can be likened to the sky with a variety of clouds moving through it — some light and fluffy, others ominous and threatening.  No matter what the situation, the sky is not affected by the clouds.  It is free.

We are each free to focus our awareness wherever we choose.  We can choose to focus on love and kindness, or on anger and fear.  When we take the time to focus on love and on being kind to ourselves and others, the anger and fear within us starts to dissolve and fade.

Nothing outside of you can prevent love, as long as you do not give away your power to others.  When you make someone else responsible for how you feel and how you behave, you give away your power to choose.

When someone says, “What made you angry?” they are implying that things outside of us make us feel a particular way.  That’s not really the way things work. We can choose to be afraid or we can choose to be angry because of what someone else does or doesn’t do.  — OR — We can choose to stay in the love and just allow their poor behavior to flow past us – to not allow it to affect us at all.  It’s our personal choice.

We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean you are a bad person.  I love you anyway.”

— OR —

We can think, “Just because you have bad manners doesn’t mean I have to have bad manners, too.”

— OR —

We can think, “This person with bad manners is badly in need of love.  I will send them some.”

Then, we can open our hearts and send them love.

Learning to do this on a regular basis requires practice.

So if you decide to take this challenge, please add the wonderful things you discover about yourself as a comment to this blog post.




It Begins and Ends with Your Heart.

February 27, 2014 by  
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The Practicalities of Making Changes

Sakhara and Starlight.

Sakhara and Starlight.


When I get up in the morning, I have 3 hungry felines demanding breakfast.  The first thing I do is feed them.  Then I can have my cup of tea, or so I imagine.

But when I sit down with my tea, Sakhara insists on being in my lap, getting brushed, and being cuddled.  Starlight wants to play.  Fortunately, Violet likes to meditate, and only sometimes insists on doing that in my lap.

That cup of tea is what gets me going so I can do the 1,001 things that demand my attention in the morning.  I get up at 4 or 4:30 or 5 a.m.  If I’m lucky, I eat breakfast before 8 a.m.  Where does the time go?

It’s not important for you to know the detailed list of activities that go on here every morning.  What’s important for me, and for you, too, is to recognize when our lives are being taken over by the daily necessities that distract us from what’s important.

Until I have all those things finished, I don’t find time for me.  I work at home.  I don’t have to commute anywhere.  Still, the mornings are full and I often am challenged to find the time to take care of me.

Is that heart-centered living?

Is that loving myself?

Yet, somehow, we’re supposed to be  learning how to live from our hearts.

How do we manage that in a practical way?

When we first begin something new, it can be challenging to make adjustments.  Old habits push new activities aside.  Family members insist that we don’t change, even animal family members.  They challenge us to mean what we say and to say what we mean, and then to follow through with some consistency.

This morning, I got up at 4 a.m. just to drink some water, and before I knew it the day took off, not without me, but it certainly felt that way.

Find the Love Inside You.

Find the Love Inside You.

So as I begin teaching Heart Centered Living this Saturday morning, I’m wondering how my life will change – at the detail level – when I’m living totally from my heart.

Maybe the routines won’t change, but how I feel about them will change?

Maybe clarity and focus will become easier?

Maybe the sun will rise in the west and set in the east?

I’m about to find out.

I’m opening my heart to discover where to begin.  I know my heart will guide me.

Perhaps the first step is to begin the day in my heart and to end the day there as well.  Then being heart centered may just expand outward to fill the rest of my life.


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