Self-Love: How do I love me?

Learning to love myself … seemed like a strange thing to do, at first.  Then I discovered that the old saying is true:

You can’t really love

someone else if you don’t

love yourself.

If my pot of love is empty, I have no love to offer another.

If my pot of love is partially filled, then giving away what’s there leaves me empty, exhausted, unsatisfied, and resentful, and feeling unloved.

If my pot of love is full to overflowing, I can generously give love to others.

For me to love me means I must fill my pot of love to overflowing.  Then I have plenty of love to share with others.

My pot of love.

If I rely on others to fill me up, I’m behaving irresponsibly.  I’m giving away my personal power by failing to acknowledge my own ability to take care of myself, as well as my worthiness to be loved.

When I say, “myself,” I’m not speaking of my “small self” or ego.

I’m speaking of my Divine Self, my I Am Presence.  I no longer see myself as small, helpless, and lacking in value.

I AM the Divine, and I have the POWER to fill myself up with Divine Love.

In this way, I acknowledge my ability to fill my pot of love to overflowing with the abundance of the Divine Love that flows infinitely from Source.

I have the power to fill myself up with love on a regular basis.

So …

How do I love me?

By resting when I need to rest.  By sleeping when I need to sleep.  By eating when I’m hungry, and eating what my body wants and finds nourishing.  This includes chocolate, by the way.  Chocolate is a “food group.”

How do I love me?

I fill myself by staying away from people who insist on being negative about everything, who focus on what’s wrong with everything, and who choose to see disaster everywhere.

By avoiding movies, stories, TV, news, and other things that are all about violence, abuse, and mistreatment of others when I myself am feeling vulnerable.  I already know that the 3-D world is filled with horror.  I don’t need it in my face as a daily serving of malnourishment.

I fill myself by training myself to shift to a positive focus regardless of the situation, to find the gifts and gold nuggets waiting for me everywhere, and to not allow energy vampires to feed on me.

Negativity is draining.

Positivity is filling.

I envison a world I am choosing to live in, one where love, harmony, compassion, tenderness, kindness, generosity, forgiveness, and mental/emotional sanity prevail.

How do I love me?

I speak kindly to myself.  I eliminate negative statements that are habits of thought.  “That was stupid.”  “What a dumb thing to do.  You’ve made a mess again!.”  These types of statements have no place in self-love.

How do I love me?

I tell myself the truth, even when I don’t like the truth.  No more secrets from myself.  No more lies to myself.  This is authenticity, and anything less creates holes in my pot of love allowing the love energy to drain out.

How do I love me?

I tell myself that, wherever I am, it’s the perfect place for me to be in this “now” moment.

Even tho’ my ego, my small self, may not know why I am where I am, my Soul knows.

That means there is more than one benefit to my being wherever it is.

So I seek the lesson instead of wasting energy in resistance or trying to run away.

This moves me through things faster and with less discomfort.  I focus on moving through the turn at the bottom of the curve and see myself emerging up the other side.

It’s like riding a horse.  If you look at the ground, that’s where you land.  If you look ahead, the horse and you fly smoothly forward to where you put your focus.

How do I love me?

I allow myself to be “wrong,” to make mistakes, and to know that I’m still learning, and that learning requires making mistakes.

When I am “wrong” about something, I admit it freely without guilt or recrimination.

How do I love me?

When I go into fear or anxiety, I wrap my arms around my inner child and comfort her with Divine Love.  Her fear and anxiety quickly begin to subside.  Then I get up and move around and do something, anything, to get my body moving.

I also have learned to use flower essences, supplements, and homeopathic remedies to help shift me out of dense emotional patterns.

How do I love me?

By giving to others what I truly have to offer, but only if those others truly want it in the moment I am able and willing to give it.

If someone wants something of me that I don’t have the energy or desire to give to them, I respect myself and them by saying. “No.  I’m not willing to do that.”

Anything else is inauthentic, and unloving to myself, and to them.

Have you checked in on your Pot O’ Love lately?  It it filled to overflowing?

Love is Golden

 

How to Make Affirmations More Effective.

Seeing our reflecting brings up beliefs about ourself.

When you SUCCESSFULLY

replace negative self-talk with

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS,

your life shifts.

The challenge is to actually make it happen.

Many negative beliefs you have about yourself get established in childhood.

  • They become deeply embedded in your psyche, emotions, and even in  your physical body.

  • They become tightly woven into your overall belief system and emotional fabric.

  • They affect how you see and feel about yourself, the world, and your relationships with others.

  • They hold you back from experiencing love, joy, and bliss.

  • They directly affect your ability to be successful in all areas of life.

Positive statements that contradict your current beliefs do not easily replace negative self-talk that has been with you for a lifetime or more.

Some negative statements may be easily replace by positive ones, but more often than not, you may find yourself struggling to transform the old self-talk into consistently optimistic, creative, positive thinking and talking patterns.

What to do?

Are you going to be stuck forever in negativity?

NO!

You CAN make the changes you desire.

You CAN make these changes permanent.

GETTING STARTED

  • Start by identifying your negative thoughts and the feelings that surround them.

    • Make a list of whatever comes to mind.  You probably already know what many of them are because they zip through your mind.  All you need do is start paying attention.

  • Make 2 columns on each page of a notebook or journal and write the list of negative thoughts in the left-hand column.

    • Leave enough space between them so that you have room in the right-hand column to write a positive message to replace each negative one.

The next step may require some assistance, but you can probably get started on your own.

  • Start writing positive statements in the right hand column for each negative message.

    • Try different wording until the new statement feels very positive, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable to imagine yourself actually believing it.

      You have to get a little ways into your discomfort zone to know that the message is truly positive enough.

INITIATING TRANSFORMATION

Now comes the challenge of removing the negative belief or message and replacing it with the positive one.

One way to approach this is to work with a professional, such as myself.

Using special energetic techniques, the negative message and the emotional debris that holds it in place can be energetically removed from your body.

Then, using related techniques, a positive message can be embedded as a replacement.

By using these techniques, your subconscious will be more likely to accept the new positive messages as “true” instead of rejecting them as false because they contradict some deeply held core belief.

By communicating with your subconscious through muscle testing, I can identify which new messages are acceptable to your subconscious and which ones are being rejected.

In the same way, I can identify emotional blocks to accepting the new belief.

Then using other techniques I can remove whatever is blocking the new belief.

Of course, there are no “quick fixes.”

Several layers may have to be addressed to finally make it possible for a new, positive belief to be planted, nourished, and take root.

A SECOND APPROACH

Another approach is to place a new positive message everywhere in all aspects of your being.  If you decide to use this method, do only 1 positive message at a time.

In a self-guided meditation, you can place it in all your chakras, organs, glands, joints, bones, muscles, and so on.

  • Ask your I Am Presence to assist you.

  • As you focus on each location in your bodies, say the positive message 3 times as you hold the intention of placing it in that spot.

  • You can even do this at the cellular and DNA levels, so use your imagination and go as deeply as you are guided to go.

  • After you have completed this process, place the affirmation in various locations around your home so your subconscious sees and reads it frequently.

    • A favorite spot for me is the bathroom wall, as positive affirmations make great reading material.  The more you read it, the more your subconscious is reminded of the new message.

The main limitation with this approach is that it doesn’t remove the negative message.  It simply places the new one everywhere inside you.

Furthermore, this approach takes longer to embed a new positive belief than the one first described.

Still, once you’ve used it on a particular message, you may find that a positive affirmation you were having trouble embedding has actually begun to take hold.

. . .  AND FINALLY

Transformation IS possible.

If you feel stuck, you can be helped to get unstuck.

If you feel like giving up, you can be helped to find the courage and strength to continue on your path.

If you feel overwhelmed, you can be helped to restore your balance so you can take the next steps towards your goals.

If you choose to get rid of negative self-talk, you can be helped to do it!