Spaying Melissa – Preparation



Melissa, the newest member of my feline family, arrived early last October, 2015, not yet spayed at 6 months of age.

A variety of events postponed her spaying until this April.

Preparing Melissa for spaying was something of a challenge.  This teenage kitten was definitely in her own world, and highly dominant, as well.


Starlight and Melissa

Starlight and Melissa


When she first arrived, Melissa needed to integrate into our family.

Going from 3 cats to 4 cats was not a simple matter for any of us.  Everyone was challenged in a multitude of ways.

The integration process is  usually stressful for cats.  Everyone involved did their very best.

We used flower essences and took other steps to ease the process.  Thus, there were no outright fights.

Nevertheless, the stress of integration can lead to illness.


Most cats carry viruses that cause upper respiratory diseases.  When under stress, their immune systems weaken and they can get sick.  My cats are no exception.

So everyone got sick.

Unfortunately, Melissa’s viral illness also became a bacterial infection.  I opted at first to give her an antibiotic.  By the end of five days it was clear that Melissa was allergic to the medication.

homeopathy to the rescue

Quickly, I turned to homeopathy.

Homeopathy has many benefits:

  • No side effects.
  • Allows and supports the body’s natural processes for overcoming illness.
  • Helps the body restore and build a strong, healthy immune system.

The homeopathic veterinarian and I worked together for several months to help Melissa’s system recover.


The veterinary practice I use for allopathic medicine requires a rabies shot prior to spaying.

I wasn’t about to give Melissa the controversial rabies vaccine until I felt certain her immune system could handle it.  Hence, another delay.


I believe that the hormones produced during the first heat cycle help the physical and emotional bodies to mature.

All my cats have had at least 1 heat prior to spaying.

If you spay during a heat cycle, the sudden drop in hormones can be quite a shock to the system.

Furthermore during a heat cycles the reproductive organs are engorged with blood, which makes the surgery more traumatic for the body.

I observed that Melissa’s first heat in February at 10 months  helped her body to mature, but her immune system wasn’t ready for the rabies shot yet.

Melissa had a total of 4 heats before the homeopathic veterinarian and I felt she was ready to be spayed.


Melissa and Violet


Melissa finally had her rabies shot and was scheduled for surgery.

Meanwhile, all previous attempts to explain to her about being spayed failed to get through.

I had asked Starlight to share her spaying experience with Melissa.


Starlight Playing 007_web

Starlight:  “She didn’t listen.  She never listens to much of anything.”

Nedda:  “True.  Well, thanks for trying.  Don’t be concerned.  I’ll get through to her myself.”

Finally, just 2 days before the surgery date, I had this conversation with Melissa.

MELISSA soon after she arrived.

Melissa at 6 months old.

Nedda:  “Melissa, when you came into this life, did you intend to have kittens?”

Melissa:  “No.”

Nedda:  “Well, the heats you’ve been having are caused by your body preparing for you to get pregnant with babies.”

Melissa had come from a cattery, so she knew about breeding and babies.

“When you are spayed, the organs used to create kittens are removed, and you won’t have any more heats.”

Melissa:  “Good.” 

Melissa’s heats were exhausting for her. She would lose weight because she wasn’t interested in food during the cycles.

Nedda:  “So on Thursday, in 2 days, you’re going to the veterinarian for surgery.

She had already met the vet.

I’m going to leave you there for the spaying surgery.”

Melissa:  “Leave me there?????”  [A bit of fear, like I might be abandoning her.]

Nedda:  “Only for the day.  I’m not allowed to be there while you’re having surgery.  I’ll pick you up after the surgery and bring you home.  This is your home.  We are your family and we all love you very much.”

Melissa:  [Relaxing]  “OK.”

Nedda:  “To do the surgery, they will first take some blood to do some tests and make sure you can handle the anesthesia.”  [Sending a mental picture of vet tech taking blood from a vein in her rear leg.]

“Then they will give you an injection of something to make you very sleepy and to prevent pain. 

You can stay in touch with me telepathically if you want to, or you can just relax and go to sleep. 

They will then remove your ovaries and uterus [mental pictures of what the organs look like] and they’ll seal up your body so that it can heal.”

Melissa:  “OK.” [Feeling of calm acceptance.]

Nedda:  “The morning of the surgery you can’t have any breakfast.  You’re going to be hungry, but if I feed you your tummy will be upset later and that’s not good.  So you’ll have to wait to eat until after you wake up from the surgery.”

Melissa:  [Feeling of calm acceptance.]

Nedda:  “Do you have any questions so far?”

Melissa:  “No.”

Nedda:  “You can ask me questions at any time, OK?  When you come home from the surgery, your body will take time to heal. This means you’ll have to rest and you won’t be able to run around and jump for 5 days.”

Melissa:  [Incredulous.]

Nedda:  “You’ll have to stay in a crate so that you don’t forget and start to jump.  I know how much you love to jump, and you just can’t do it until your body has healed enough to prevent pulling out the stitches.”

Melissa:  “A crate?”  [Picturing a small cat carrier.]

Nedda:  “The big dog-sized crate you and Starlight have been playing in.” 

Melissa's recovery from surgery setup.

[This extra-extra-large Saint Bernard sized dog crate was set up a week earlier for Melissa to check it out.  Notice the catnip mouse in front of the cat bed.]

Melissa:  [Feeling reassured.]  “OK.”



Because she was prepared for surgery, Melissa didn’t get upset that morning when I put her into the big crate to wait until it was time to leave.

This made it possible for me to feed the other cats while Melissa, who couldn’t eat, didn’t have to smell the food.

Every so often, she’d murmur vocally, saying, “Don’t forget about me” while I took care of things elsewhere in the house.

I kept reassuring her that I hadn’t forgotten and was getting things ready for us to leave.

I used Rescue Remedy while she was waiting.  I misted

  • around in the room where she waited.
  • the cat carrier she would travel in.

I did NOT give any to Melissa, as Rescue Remedy increases alertness and can interfere with going under anesthesia.

I did give Melissa a home-made formula of these flower essences by putting some directly on her ears, nose pad, and feet:

  • Aspen – for anxiety,
  • Mimulus – for fear of specific things, such as surgery, or being at the vets,
  • Chamomile – for anxiety that causes stomach upset, and
  • Walnut – for adjusting to change.


Melissa proved that all the preparation had been worthwhile:

I opened the door of the large dog create and Melissa, on her own, stepped out and walked right into the waiting cat carrier.

I shut the door and we left.