Heart Centered Living: Challenge #2




Among the emotions that hold us back from staying connected to our Heart, FEAR is the biggest challenge. In this category, people mentioned FEAR more times than any other limiting emotion. People also included being judgmental, feeling resentment, feeling unworthy, and just getting “upset.”

How does FEAR hold us back? Possibly because FEAR has powerful physical consequences. It sets off adrenaline, which puts us into “fight or flight” mode. “Fight or flight” reduces or eliminates our ability to remember that we have choices about how to handle any situation. Instead, we come out fighting, or run away, or just freeze (playing possum).

I remember once I had a conversation with one of my sisters and when I hung up the phone, I couldn’t move. I literally sat in the same chair for several hours, totally frozen with FEAR. My mind was numb and my body was immobilized. Eventually, I was able to get up and start my body going, and later on I was able to understand what had happened to me and take some steps towards resolving the situation. But in that moment, I couldn’t do anything but sit.

This is an extreme example of what most of us experience on a daily basis. Often we feel FEAR to varying degrees and may not even recognize it. We stumble through our life wondering why we aren’t making the choices that will bring us happiness. We assign other feelings to our emotional state, but underneath it all, we are afraid.

We may be afraid of what others will say, afraid that we will be rejected, afraid we will lose our friends, our loved ones, our family, our homes, and many other things. So instead, we end up losing ourselves. We disconnect from our self-awareness and instead we choose to do what we believe we need to do to survive, to not be rejected, and to reach out for the things we think we want. In actuality, this often doesn’t work out as we expect, but because we are afraid we remain FEAR-based in making our choices and in our habits.

Many times, we don’t even realize that FEAR underlies other limiting emotions. Take anger, for example. Why do we become angry? We may say it’s because someone else did something, and that made us angry. But actually, we become angry to hide the feeling of FEAR that comes up when we don’t get what we want or when someone threatens us or whatever. If we can learn to manage FEAR some other way, it will help free us from all sorts of limiting emotional patterns.

Over the next few days, you might choose to start noticing what you are feeling and how FEAR might be underlying your feeling.  Also, take note of how you react when you are FEARful. How does FEAR control your behaviors? What do you do when you are afraid?

Perhaps you express FEAR by giving away your power to another – by doing what that person wants you to do, even when that action doesn’t feel “right” to you. Notice how FEAR keeps you from acting in a Loving way, a Heart-felt way. If you have a chance, jot down the times you give your power away due to FEAR. This is the first step in taking back your power from your FEAR – learning to recognize how you handle things when you are afraid.

It’s time for all of us to take back our power from FEAR – to stop making decisions based on FEAR – to start living from LOVE instead. When you love yourself as you would love a small child who is afraid, without judgment and with compassion, your FEAR begins to fade away and you find your true strengths. Your Heart Center holds the key to this transformation.

If you are interested in learning ways to free yourself of old messages and limiting beliefs, you might want to listen to the free teleclass on “Heart Centered Living: A Transformative Process.”  It’s available right at the top of the page.


Going Postal

April 30, 2009 by  
Filed under Food for Thought, New Posts




OK.  So you have a package to mail.  You get it all wrapped up and take it to the post office.

Since I like to buy clothing from catalogues and since I’ve just lost a great deal of weight and need some new duds and have no idea what size will actually fit me, I have been visiting the postal service quite a bit of late. 

Oh, and add to that the fact that my local post office has changed around the delivery routes and now my mail is picked up/delivered so late in the day (4:30 or 5 p.m.) that any mail I put in my personal mailbox won’t  really go out until the following morning.  

All of this means I have had to visit the post office more frequently lately, and frankly it has not been an entirely good experience.

The issue is this:  each time I bring in a “package”, I am asked a series of ridiculous questions about the contents.  The stream of questions has to do with what’s inside the package and whether it is hazardous, dangerous, likely to explode, likely to leave pee in the corner of the room, or do anything else that might require a HazMat team to appear.

Needless to say, these are ridiculous questions to ask anyone.  Do they really believe that someone intent on sending something nasty is going to tell them about it????????  Of course not!!!

So what’s really going on here?

I asked the gal who waited on me last Monday just what she thought these questions are all about?  Her answer astounded me:  “It’s to make people feel safer,” she replied, parroting back to me, I suspect, what she and the other staff had been told when they had to memorize these absurd questions.

“No,” I responded.  “These questions are designed to keep us in fear by reminding us every single time we mail something that ‘the world is a dangerous place’ and that we should ‘remember to be afraid’ so that the government and other controllers can keep us dumbed down and stupid because our adrenaline is flowing.   Then we are easier to control and manipulate.”

These type of questions give an impression that “something is being done to protect us.”  But that’s just a load of hog wash (there are those piggies again), as far as I’m concerned.

Of course, you can believe whatever you want.   But the fact is, living in fear is not really living very well.   Too much adrenaline is not healthy for us physically or emotionally or mentally or spiritually.  It’s time to take the “fright zone” out of the post office, don’t you think??