Desperately Needed: Self-Love

November 15, 2015 by  
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What Is the Spiritual Message?


Do we have a choice other than going into fear?

It may seem difficult for us to understand what the higher meaning is in situations such as the terrorist attacks that took place in Paris, France on Friday.

Since the 9/11 attacks on the Twin Towers in New York, many light workers have sought to understand from a higher perspective just what’s happening when groups of people die together.

While the media always calls it a “tragedy,” is that the spiritual perspective as well?

When we ask for higher guidance on situations such as this, we’re giving a very different perspective than you receive in the media.

Here are a few of the concepts that may help you gain spiritual insight.

  • The physical realm is not the only realm affected when groups of humans exit that realm together.

  • The overall plan is for all of humanity to awaken … to remember that they are first and foremost Divine Beings of Infinite Love.

  • Whether in a bus crash, a terrorist attack, an earthquake, or any other group death situation, those who leave their physical bodies do so as part of their spiritual life plan.

  • If this is part of their plan, then we must ask, “Why would they choose this form of exit from the physical realm?”

  • The greater purpose of events such as these is to create an opportunity for those still in physical to choose fear … or … to choose love.

  • When large groups of humans choose love, it accelerates the shift in human consciousness to move into greater love and to awaken spiritually.

  • Those who died chose to exit in this way as a gift from their soul to humanity.  This includes those who blew themselves up as well as those who died because they were affected by the explosion.

  • Each one participating in these events is making an offering to the rest of us.

So which will you choose:




When you choose love, can you also choose


Compassion allows us to be fully present with another while staying out of judgment and not trying to “fix” anything.

Consider that those who did the killing probably didn’t have much love for themselves.

Self-love might be considered the scarcest commodity on this planet.

Self-Love —

the Scarcest Commodity on Earth.


Even compared to water and food, which is quite lacking in many areas of the Earth, Self-Love is far more rare and desperately needed by all of  us.

So, if you are one of those choosing LOVE as your response to the loss of life in France this week, please consider sending love to all who died, including those who committed the violent act.

Send LOVE to the family and friends on both sides of this event.

ALL are desperately in need of love, and most have no love for themselves.

Then, as a gift to yourself and to humanity, practice SELF-LOVE today.

Tarot cards for February 24, 2015

February 25, 2015 by  
Filed under Energy Healing Systems, New Posts, Tarot

Inspiration for My Day

Quan YinQuan Yin, Ascended Master of Compassion.


This morning I asked for a card from my Healing Earth Tarot deck, and was given two.  That seemed odd, but once I looked at the cards, it made sense.

7 of Shields:

This suit speaks from the Throat Chakra, through which we manifest our physical existence and all that comes to us in that realm.

The 7 of Shields represents new growth and new ideas being made manifest, emerging from a time of inner work during which we have been hibernating or transforming inside a womb or egg.  It can also represent us coming forth from retreat or a winter of withdrawal and reassessment.

In my own life, this card is spot on, as I’ve been in deep inner work since last fall and early winter, letting go of a of grief and sadness that had logged itself everywhere in my body over a lifetime.  I have made great shifts, and now have new ideas about the services I offer to align with the times that are ahead.

6 of Crystals:

This suit speaks from the Solar Plexus Chakra, the power center that is connected with our mental body.  The image on the card includes a drawing of Quan Yin, Ascended Master and Goddess of Compassion.

This card invites us to rise above all worries and concerns, to take the higher view, to be detached from emotions that might hold us back or limit us, and to move out of judgment and into compassion.

When we are compassionate with ourselves, it’s easier to begin a new adventure or to head off in a new direction.  Mistakes are important for learning and for growth, and beating ourselves up for them is non-productive and detrimental.  Forgiveness for what we see as our mistakes will more quickly transform them into beneficial lessons.

In my own life, I tend to be very hard on myself, which is definitely not helpful under any circumstances.  This card fully supports the first one I pulled.  I’m reminded that being kind and loving to myself as I go in new directions will prevent me from holding myself back with old patterns of judgment and self-criticism.

Learning to be kind to myself is an ongoing lesson these days, and I’m grateful to have the reminder.

Tarot Card Readings

When I work with the tarot cards, I recognize that the messages I’m receiving are coming from within myself, from my higher self or I Am Presence, and from all the other aspects of me who are eager to communicate their messages.

I don’t see tarot as coming from outside ourselves.  I don’t give my power away to the cards.  Instead, the cards become part of me, aligned with me energetically so that I always receive the perfect message.

Then I quickly discover how the messages are designed to assist me as guidance, but not a predictors of anything.  I’m in charge, and I can transform my life when I have more insight into myself and the greater wisdom that I know is available to me from my I Am Presence.



Compassion Begins at Home

May 5, 2013 by  
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To Become Compassionate Towards Ourselves

is the first step to

being compassionate towards others.


This notion of mine might defy the thinking of great philosophers.  It might.  Then again, it might not.

Compassion has always been a difficult subject for me.  I never really understood it at all, despite reading great works of enlightened beings.

Recently, I’ve been learning about compassion in my own life.  Here’s what I’ve been discovering.

I have to stop judging myself, both positively and negatively.

To do that requires that I notice when I’m making a judgment.

Then I have to STOP making judgments about myself.

I have to let in more love. 

I have to become open to receiving Love Without Conditions from wherever it comes.

I have to believe I deserve that Love.

I have to be kinder to myself.

I have to be gentler with myself.

I have to become more patient with myself.

A voice inside tells me that this should be easy.  Oops.  There’s that “should” word – indicating I’ve just made a judgment.  How difficult or easy it is to do is just a matter of perception and belief.  I can choose to believe it is easy to learn this and ask for assistance to learn it easily, quickly, effortlessly, painlessly, and lovingly.  I SO CHOOSE.

When I’ve practiced compassion towards myself a bit, I’ll be able to practice compassion more easily towards others.  I’ll notice when I’m being compassionate and when I’m back in the old way of being – judgmental, critical, trying to “fix” another.

When I can accept myself as I am in the moment and LOVE MYSELF no matter what else is going on, that’s compassion.

Hmmm.  I need to keep practicing. ;-).



The Rescue Game – Disempowerment 101

February 10, 2009 by  
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The other day, while writing about compassion, I stumbled into another fascinating subject:  rescue.   Many times when we feel compassion for someone, we want to jump right in and help.  But this is not what is compassion is all about.  It is, however, what Rescue is about.

Most of us feel that rescuing someone is a good thing to do.  However, there are times when we think we are helping another and actually, we are not.  This situation leads to conflict because we are confirming for them that they are stuck with being disempowered and cannot take their own power back.

When we rescue someone, we take full responsibility for that person’s life and well-being in that moment or situation.  We assume that the individual is incapable of making decisions for themselves.  We believe that we know what is best for that person, and that the individual doesn’t know what is best for herself.

There are very real situations in which rescuing someone is necessary.   The types of situations in which a rescue is an appropriate response are actually rather few and specific.  Someone who is lying unconscious on the floor and cannot help themselves needs rescuing.  An infant who cannot care for itself and cannot communicate what it needs or wants needs rescuing.  Someone buried under an avalanche or trapped in a burning building or experiencing some other physical disaster is clearly in need of rescuing.

But in our more ordinary daily living, we sometimes try to rescue conscious, fully-functioning individuals who are quite capable of caring for themselves.  Instead they may be in the habit of giving away their power to others by creating situations in which they appear to be needy or helpless.   This invites others to jump in and “fix” the situation.

The person who appears helpless but really isn’t helpless is called a Victim.  

A Victim is someone who refuses to take responsibility for one or more situations in their own life.  They blame everyone else for what’s making them unhappy or creating obstacles in their lives.  Victims look to others to fix their problems – to save them – when they are actually quite capable of doing it themselves.

A Victim may not actually ask for help, but a Victim is seeking someone to jump in and take care of them and whatever situation is currently “the problem.”  This person feels disempowered, but instead of saying, “I want to take my power back and fix my situation,” they are saying, “I am helpless and the situation is hopeless, so I want someone else to take responsibility for me and for it.”

A Rescuer is someone who jumps in to save the Victim.  A Rescuer thinks she has the best of intentions, but by agreeing to fix the problem for the Victim, the Rescuer is agreeing that the Victim is “helpless and hopeless.”  When the Rescuer decides to “save” the Victim, the Rescuer is not empowering the Victim to take charge of his or her own life and situation.

So now there are two players in this game, both of whom are in agreement that the basic assumption, disempowerment of the Victim, is an unalterable fact.  They also agree that the Victim does not have to reclaim his power in order to change his life or situation.

If you’ve ever been the Rescuer in this type of situation, you might already know what happens next.  What happens nearly every time is that the Victim decides that the Rescuer isn’t rescuing the way the Victim wants to be rescued or that the result of the rescue is somehow “wrong” or inadequate.  As soon as the Victim decides this, the Victim transforms into something else – a Persecutor.

A Persecutor is someone who blames a Rescuer for “doing it wrong.”  Of course, by definition, the Rescuer can’t possibly do it “right”, since doing it “right” would restore personal power back to the Victim, who doesn’t really want it.

So the former Victim, now the Persecutor, starts to “beat up” on the Rescuer, who is transformed into a new Victim who is now feeling betrayed and angry.  The Persecutor may use physical violence, but more often uses verbal negativity and verbal abuse against the new Victim. 

This often leaves the former Rescuer, now Victim, it a state of surprise and anger.  “I thought I was helping you.  I thought I was doing what you wanted.  Why can’t you show me some appreciation?” cries the new Victim.

Both parties who play this Rescue Game (first described in detail in Games People Play: The Handbook of Transactional Analysis, by Eric Berne) end up dissatisfied.   The basic problem, disempowerment, remains unresolved.  In my experience this happens because neither individual recognizes that we cannot give someone back their own personal power – they have to be willing to take it back and they have to take it back themselves.

We can assist another in taking back their power, but we cannot give it to them because it isn’t ours to give.  If someone is unwilling to take back their power, we can only feel compassion for them, but we must allow each individual to make his or her own choices.

We can model empowerment by taking back our own power.  This will give us more satisfaction in our own lives.   It will also put the energy of re-empowerment into the group Consciousness of Humanity.  It will demonstrate that taking back personal power IS possible. 

That is the very best we can do.  That is all we are meant to do.  Trying to do anything more will get us caught up in the Rescue Game.


p.s.  Eric Berne’s book, Games People Play, and other books on Transactional Analysis are available at

Compassion: Caring Without Attachment

February 5, 2009 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, Heart Centered Living

One of the most powerful emotions of the Heart is compassion.  Compassion is often thought of as an emotion that only a Divine being is capable of feeling and expressing.  For example, Quan Yin (Kuan Yin) is called the Chinese Goddess of Compassion.  There are also statues expressing the energies of the Compassionate Buddha.

Does this mean that you and I are incapable of experiencing compassion from within?  Must we receive it from a Divine source?  Or are we a Divine Being also capable of feeling and expressing compassion?

The truth is that we are each capable of compassion.  But just what exactly is this quality?

One dictionary defines compassion as “a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.” 

I would agree that compassion involves sympathy, but it also includes empathy.  Sympathy means to have a similar feeling as another – to vibrationally resonate with what someone is feeling.  Empathy, on the other hand, means to actually share the feeling that another is experiencing.

The magic of compassion is that it enables us to share what another is feeling without being in judgment about it.  It also enables us to help another without being attached to the outcome of their situation.

How does compassion allow us to do this? 

Compassion is a very high spiritual vibration or energy.  To truly be compassionate, one must also allow the other to make their own decisions and live with the consequences of those decisions.  Compassion does not mean that we try to fix someone else or someone else’s life.  We might offer to be helpful.  We might respond when asked for assistance.  We might offer suggestions and support.  But we must always allow the other to choose for him/herself.

Compassion works through Divine Love.  Divine Love – Love Without Conditions – means that we can love someone without requiring anything of that person.  We hold the individual in our heart regardless of what they say, what they do, what they feel, and what they choose to experience.

When we can do this, we can also compassionately sympathize and empathize with them and with their situation.  But it does not mean that we become compelled to try to fix the situation.  Compassion does not resonate with rescuing.  (Check for an upcoming blog on the subject of “rescuing.”)

When we are compassionate, we can be fully present for the person in this moment.  We can listen to their words and their emotions without having to take any action.  Because we are fully present with them in the current moment of their pain, sorrow, or whatever the person is feeling, we provide a space that allows the individual to feel and possibly express their feelings. 

As the person expresses their feelings in the presence of compassion, the individual often begins to let some of the feeling go and a sense of relief arises.  Someone has heard them.  Someone cares about how they feel.  Someone is not judging them, and thus is giving them the space to just be in the moment, to just be whoever they are in that moment.

Often people feel very isolated.  Some people truly are isolated.  They may be street people or they may just live alone.  Today, we can be alone in a crowd.  We can feel isolated at a party.  Just making eye contact and giving someone a smile can be an expression of compassion when the eye contact and the smile are connected with the Heart energy of compassion.

Today, you might ask yourself these questions: 

  • How can I be more compassionate towards the people I know?
  • How can I express compassion for someone I don’t know personally?
  • How can I make compassion a part of my daily life?

Of course, you can also be compassionate towards yourself, but that’s another discussion for another day.


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