Taking Responsibility for My Life

December 14, 2008 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, Food for Thought, Nedda

When I was growing up, I was very angry and depressed and blamed my parents for everything. No surprise, this, as we are taught by the world of psychotherapy, starting with Sigmund Freud, that how we interact with our parents creates the basis for how our personalities develop and how our lives turn out.

While it is true that how we interact with others sets up patterns in our psyche that can affect us the rest of our lives, giving our power away to these patterns is more of the problem than the patterns themselves.

The first insight I had about this was while reading a book on color therapy when I was in my forties. I don’t remember the title or author, but I will never forget the message. Basically, the book said that, on the Soul Plane we make consciousness decisions regarding our next lifetime. We decide what we will experience. We make agreements with other Souls who offer to incarnate and become important individuals in our lives. We invite others to play the roles of our parents, spouses, children, friends, (even our animals) and so on who will significantly affect our lifetime. We ask them to treat us in particular ways and to share in our life path. In exchange, we offer to play various roles for them in their life paths.

This blew my mind.

For one thing, it really resonated as “true” for me.

For another thing, it meant that my parents were not responsible for how I handled anything in my life or even what I experienced. In fact, it meant that no one but I, myself, had made these decisions.

This was, for me, a critical step in reclaiming my personal power. It meant that my life was my responsibility. I had made choices before I was even born. How I chose to handle any given situation was my free will. What I had chosen to experience in this lifetime was also my free will. If I wanted to change anything in my life, it was up to me to do so.

As a result of this, I had to rethink everything about my life.

Since that time, I have also learned that the world outside me reflects the world inside me. Whatever I experience in each and every moment is totally a reflection of whatever my expectations are, whatever I energize with my thoughts and feelings, whatever I believe is true about myself.  The words I say to myself, the words I speak out loud, and how I treat others all create how I am treated and how I experience the world.

I AM in control of everything.

I AM in control whether or not I acknowledge being in control.

I AM in control whether or not I am conscious of being in control.

The power to manifest all that we experience is truly ours.

The power to decide to do this consciously is also ours.

As we grow up, we are taught to give our personal power away. We are taught this by others around us who have done the same thing. We give it away to our parents, to our friends, to our educational system, to our government, to religions, to the media, to the advertisers, and to any else who may want to control us. We are told we are sinners, weak, arrogant, prideful, and many other pejorative things when we try to claim our power.

Isn’t it time to take back our power?

I say, “YES!”

Taking back one’s power means taking full responsibility for everything in your life.

It means that, if someone treats you badly, it is not appropriate to take revenge.  It is appropriate to ask yourself some questions. “How did I create this?”  “What limiting belief do I have that brought this experience to me?”  “What am I supposed to learn about myself through this experience?”

When I can learn what I am here to learn (based on the decisions I made on the Soul Plane), when I can find the limiting belief and transform it into something expansive and enhancing to myself, I will no longer experience being treated badly.  I will learn to treat myself – and others, too – with more love, more compassion, more generosity and kindness.

I have the power to do this. 


I have already begun doing it and my life has been transformed and continues to be transformed every day.

Am I in my power every minute?  No.

But then I remind myself or a good friend reminds me, and I become even more empowered.

It’s a matter of developing new “muscles” and strengthening them by using them every day.  It can be done. 

I am the light house, the way-shower.  I shine light on this because it will show you that you, too, can be empowered. 

Only YOU can take back YOUR POWER.  Anyone who says they can give it to you is disempowering you.


The Healing Power of the Heart Center

December 2, 2008 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, Heart Centered Living

Of the 7 major chakras inside the human body, extending from the base of the spine to the top of our head, the Heart Chakra or heart center is the point of transition from lower vibrational frequencies to higher ones.  The major purpose of the Heart Chakra is to help us transform our consciousness from the lower to higher frequency vibrations.  This is most efficiently done in a conscious way. 

The tools of the Heart Center are the emotions that are available there.  Among these are Compassion, Love without conditions, Non-judgment, Forgiveness, Generosity of spirit, and Kindness.  The way to use the Heart Chakra to heal yourself of attachment to old emotions involves a number of steps.


Perhaps you have a grudge you have been carrying around for a long time.   When we carry anger or hatred or jealousy around, it begins to weigh heavily upon us.  It is like carrying a large backpack full of rocks.  With ever step, the backpack makes us waste our energy. 

In addition, when we hold onto an emotion from one situation, it tends to become magnetic and draws to itself more of that emotion.  The pattern of being angry or hating or being jealous tends to expand itself and draws more of the same into its energy.  Your backpack keeps expanding (it has unlimited size) to hold more and more of the same energy associated with many incidents and people over the years.  The energy grows and the weight increases.  Some of us actually are crawling, not walking, but crawling forward in our lives under burdons of our own creation.

So why are you still holding onto old grudges? 

“I don’t want the other person to win,” you might think.

Well, who has really won if you are crawling around beneath the weight of your emotions while the other person or persons are going about their lives feeling just fine?

“I want them to suffer ( — be punished; _________ — fill in the blank).”

Remember, to be empowered means to be in power over yourself.  You can’t change anyone else.  You CAN change YOUR SELF. 

Making the other suffer will not empty your backpack.  Instead, it may add a new emotional component called guilt.  Guilt is one of the heaviest emotions, rivaling lead, I sometimes think.

Remember, too, that everything outside us is a reflection of our inner world.  If you feel you are not worthy of enjoying your life, it’s your feeling – your limited belief – that is holding you back. 

You really don’t have to create a situation in which you say, “I’ll be happy when so-and-so is miserable.” 

What a waste of time and effort!  Do you realize you are giving your power away to the other person by making your happiness depend on that person’s mental/emotional state?

Insead, why don’t you TAKE BACK YOUR POWER?

You DO have the POWER to change your beliefs and feelings.  When you change them, your experience of your life will change.

Imagine that you can just put that backpack down and leave it on the side of the road.  Imagine yourself walking forward in your life with ease and freedom.  You would have more energy.  You would feel lighter.  You would BE lighter.  You would laugh and hop and skip and jump and enjoy life’s journey more.





p.s.  More on this discussion to come.