Starlight Integration – A Reincarnation Adventure

December 9, 2012 by  
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Starlight and Violet enjoying each other’s company.

An early English author, Samuel Richardson, wrote a novel called Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded in the late 17th century in the form of a young girl’s diary.  One of the critiques of this novel was that, if Pamela had time to write all this detail in her diary, she would not have had time to live it.

I face that very same issue with Starlight and her integration into our household.  I had time to live it, but not to write it all down.  Even if time were not so compressed that we are living what feels like 10 years of “stuff” each day, including taking care of daily needs and multiple crises, I still would have had insufficient time to keep a diary of all that has transpired.

So I ask you to forgive this abbreviated version of what has transpired with Starlight, Sakhara, and Violet.

In our last episode, Starlight moved downstairs with the express permission and agreement of Sakhara and Violet.  It soon became clear that we could only keep her confined at night, so during the day Sakhara would retreat upstairs and Violet and I would “manage” (ha, ha) on our own.

It was hard to get Starlight to bed each evening.  She didn’t want to be alone and my heart hurt to confine her.  Basically, I was waiting for Violet to give permission for me to allow Starlight to come to bed with us.  I knew that Violet had to be the one who decided because if I rushed this stage of the integration, I stood a very good chance of losing Violet’s cooperation.

Fortunately, it took only a few days (can’t remember exactly how many, but no more than 3 and possibly fewer), and Violet agreed that Starlight could sleep with us.  The first night, I put Starlight to bed, but left the door to her room ajar so she could decide what she wanted to do.  She stayed in her room (the dangers of operant conditioning).  So the next night, I took her upstairs with us.

The joy and relief in Starlight’s face and body were enormous.  I made sure that Violet could sleep in her favorite spot (down by my feet under the covers) and I kept Starlight in my arms, literally making a little “bed” for her to cuddle up and curl herself into.   We all settled in and slept fairly well.

A few days later, I restored the cat meditation room to it’s original condition, with the exception of leaving a 3rd litter box in there, as the downstairs bathroom is just too small for 3 boxes.   There’s a 4th box upstairs, and for a while no one used it, but now, it too, is being used.  Violet and Sakhara had been happy with just 2 boxes, but with Starlight here, we really need all 4.

Since giving Starlight full run of the house, Sakhara has begun playing with her.  Sakhara’s approach was her own unique system.  Once Sakhara established herself as “Top” cat (by growling and swatting and refusing to be drawn into the kitten’s play), Sakhara began playing with Starlight.  It fascinates me how this  worked.

Starlight had to show submission by turning over onto her back and exposing her belly.  Once she started doing that, Sakhara began to play.

Now, Starlight tries to swat Sakhara, but also lies down on her back, paws in the air tapping Sakhara’s face.  Sakhara growls and swats, but no longer runs away.  Starlight swats back and then joyfully jumps on Sakhara.  Sakhara growls and knocks her off.  Starlight backs up and comes back for more.  Sakhara may or may not run, but both seem to enjoy this interaction.

Violet has been having a more difficult time, actually.  Violet is a lady – dignified and grand.  She doesn’t like Starlight to jump on her, and Violet’s vocalizations are a combination scream and growl.

Violet often just runs, and Starlight chases, but then Violet gets into the run and chase and it becomes a game – at times.  Sometimes I see a smile on Violet’s face as this interaction gets going.

I keep reminding Violet that Starlight will be taller and heavier than Violet when Starlight reaches her full size.  I encourage her to sit on this kitten before she becomes too big.  But that’s not Violet’s way, and I have to accept that.

The only time I interfere, and I don’t do it very often, is when Violet is on my lap and Starlight goes after Violet’s tail.  I only do this on the bed, not downstairs.  I have taken this perogative because I consider that my time to say “good morning” or “good night” to Violet and Starlight has to learn to give me MY space to do this.

Otherwise, my role in all this is just to stay out of it.  No one is being hurt, and everyone is adjusting.  Occasionally, everyone sleeps together, but more often each cat sleeps alone, or Violet and Sakhara cuddle up together as they always have.

As of today, Starlight is 19 weeks old (about 4 and a half months) and weighs over 4 pounds and growing.  She’s a very big girl with big feet – huge toes and tiny claws that are hard to fine to clip, although they are sharper than needles and need regular attention.  She eats enough for 2 adult cats most days.  She plays hard.  She’s starting to climb the screens, so I’m going to take down the ones she can reach.  I hope by spring she’ll be past this climbing stage.

Some feline feedback:

Sakhara

SAKHARA

Starlight is doing really well, but I despair of her ever being fully grounded.  Still, she’s come a very long way.

She’s so sweet, and she’s fun, and she has brought just the right combination of energies into our home.  Violet and I have agreed that she’s too young to do very much energy work with us, but sometimes she does try to help us support Nedda.

Overall, I’m glad she’s here.

Violet

VIOLET

Starlight is amazing and wonderful.  She keeps challenging me and sometimes I enjoy her and other times she pushes my buttons so I’m getting to clear up old stuff to be ready for our whole family moving into the 5th and higher dimensions.

Nedda is being smart not to try to “fix” anything.  We each are growing, healing, and expanding our consciousness.  It’s a personal choice for each one of us.

Starlight

STARLIGHT

I just love being here.  I have the best family – they have been so patient with me.  I’m having a fantastic time.  The food is great and I get to eat as much as I like.  My only wish is that Violet and Sakhara would play with me more.  Sometimes I get a bit bored, but then Nedda steps in and we play.

It’s been hard not to immediately be accepted, but that’s ok because I know each one was doing her best to adjust to my arrival.  It can be a challenge to carry to so much Love and Light because others don’t know what to do with it.  At least in this family I didn’t have to deal with jealousy.  I was told before I came that many humans who carry Light have to deal with that, but that I would not have to.

So I’m having a ball!!  I’m really grateful to have this wonderful family and I want to help out, but Violet and Sakhara sometimes tell me to just be a kitten and enjoy that for a bit longer.

I had fun talking to the students in Nedda’s TWA class a few weeks ago.  I want to do more of THAT!!

 

Topsy-Turvey – A Reincarnation Adventure

November 12, 2012 by  
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The Best Laid Plans Get Rearranged –

CONTINUOUSLY!

Starlight and Violet cuddling – before October ended.

Still in her first week in her new home, Starlight and Violet were already getting acquainted.  Starlight was still spending most of her time alone in a room upstairs that I had carefully set up for her safety and comfort.

But it’s autumn in New England, and the weather suddenly changed and the temperatures dropped.  That very Friday morning I brought Starlight some breakfast and discovered that she was coughing a bit and that her room was too cold for such a young kitten, especially one who now seemed to have a bit of a cold.  Having experienced so many changes, I wasn’t surprised that her immune system was feeling a bit challenged.

I have an indoor thermometer because my furnace is very old and the thermostat is not precise.  I brought the thermometer upstairs and put it on the floor.  It dropped to 60 degrees.  Even with carpeting, this was too cold for Starlight.

“Family conference time,” I decided and announced to my adult feline companions.

So I sat down with Violet and Sakhara in the “cat room” downstairs.  “Starlight is sick,” I announced, “and it’s too cold upstairs for her to stay there. We have to move her and this is the only room I can think of where she can be downstairs and confined.  Unless you want her in my office?”

Two definite “no” responses to that idea.

“Are you two ready for full-time interaction with her?”

There were two definite “no” responses to this as well.

“Well,” I continued, “please give me some options of what to do.  I want your input because you two are in charge of her integration, as we previously agreed.”

We discussed the situation thoroughly.  Sakhara, who had had her own kittens before coming to live with me and Violet, was firm in her belief that a sick kitten needed to be warm.  She didn’t think that Starlight was very sick, but she did understand and told Violet that warmth was necessary.

Violet’s Meditation Cave in the cat mediation room.

Violet was reluctant to give up her meditation cave, in which she was ensconced as we three talked.  Neither of my adult feline friends were really ready for this shift to happen, but both finally agreed to make the change.

The meditation cave in the feline room backs up to a radiator for additional warmth in winter.  This got moved into the living room, which had to be rearranged to make space for it.  Violet ultimately approved the location.  (Sigh of relief from Nedda).

Violet Meditating (She gave permission for this photo.)

Then the cat meditation room had to be kitten-proofed.  Since this room also serves as my sewing room and pantry, I had to make sure that Starlight would not get into trouble once I brought her downstairs.

Finally, Starlight and all her things – bed, litter box, scratching post, toys, food, water – moved into the new room.  One more big change for a kitten who had already been through so many changes.  This room is smaller and not as interesting for a kitten – no bed to climb on – less room to play.  But safety and health had to come first.

Once that was done, I stopped for breakfast.  It was late in the morning.  Good thing I get up by 5 a.m. to get my day started.  I was very tired at that point, but felt we had made a good decision.

The next challenge was figuring out how Violet and Starlight were going to interact. Upstairs they had had two rooms and a hallway in whcih to get acquainted.  Space is a necessary factor here.  Violet insisted that we had to continue those interactions that very day.

The downstairs arrangement was not easily condusive to kitten training.  The cat room is right next to the bathroom where the litter boxes are for Violet and Sakhara. That could not be cordoned off.  Then right next door is my office, which would provide additional space for Violet and Starlight to get acquainted.

The only way to block off the rest of the downstairs, so Sakhara didn’t have to participate, was with the metal pen I had purchased for the eventual Starlight feeding station.   This proved to be totally inadquate.

Starlight has large paws and long legs.  She’s like a Thoroughbred race horse – FAST!!!  She also has amazing balance – she can walk along the top of the metal barrier like a tight-rope expert in the circus.  She has no fear, so will climb anything and jump anywhere and push through barriers.  This is part of her gift to humanity – total love and no fear!!

So this “barrier” was just a jungle gym for Starlight, and not a barrier at all.  After a day or so I just gave up trying to confine Starlight to a limited portion of the downstairs.  There is a door on the cat room, and Starlight would be confined for the night and for short periods of time during the day to give Violet and Sakhara (and me) a break from her energy and enthusiasm.  I also wanted Violet to tell me when SHE was ready to share her bed (the bed I share with her at night) with Starlight.

I left it up to my adult feline family members to make important decisions that affected all of our lives.  I felt strongly that this would create a successful and fairly rapid integration.  This turned out to be a wise decision on my part.

One of Sakhara’s favorite spots in the feline meditation room.

So at the end of about a week, Starlight had the run of the house during the day.  Sakhara was hanging out upstairs during the day.  She would growl and hiss and disappear, and this was something new I would have to address with Sakhara.  (More about this later.)

I was having to supervise meals carefully, as Starlight wanted what her big “sisters” were eating and her diet was not the same as theirs yet.   My gals eat raw food, and Starlight had been weaned onto canned food.  Yet another change that I wanted to make, but slowly so as not to cause Starlight any digestive upset.

At night, I began a ritual of putting Starlight to bed.  She didn’t want to be alone, and I didn’t really want her to be alone, but Violet and Sakhara HAD to be the ones who decided when Starlight would no longer be confined.  I would get her all settled down with some additional food, massage her with her brush, and put her into her bed.  I had to be very fast to get from her bed (next to the radiator) out the door without squishing the kitten, who, like lightening, would try to make an “escape.” In fact, she often DID get out, and then I had to go through the ritual yet again.

Keeping up with all this was exhausting, as you might imagine.

Violet was tired, too.  She wasn’t as fit at age 13 as she had been, although her “games” with Starlight were fitting her up once again.  I also had to make sure Sakhara got lots of attention from me, too.

Each evening, all 3 of us would collapse after Starlight went into her room “to bed.”

Each morning, we’d all start again to integrate Starlight.