Heart Centered Living: Challenge #2

 

FEAR and OTHER LIMITING EMOTIONS

 

Among the emotions that hold us back from staying connected to our Heart, FEAR is the biggest challenge. In this category, people mentioned FEAR more times than any other limiting emotion. People also included being judgmental, feeling resentment, feeling unworthy, and just getting “upset.”

How does FEAR hold us back? Possibly because FEAR has powerful physical consequences. It sets off adrenaline, which puts us into “fight or flight” mode. “Fight or flight” reduces or eliminates our ability to remember that we have choices about how to handle any situation. Instead, we come out fighting, or run away, or just freeze (playing possum).

I remember once I had a conversation with one of my sisters and when I hung up the phone, I couldn’t move. I literally sat in the same chair for several hours, totally frozen with FEAR. My mind was numb and my body was immobilized. Eventually, I was able to get up and start my body going, and later on I was able to understand what had happened to me and take some steps towards resolving the situation. But in that moment, I couldn’t do anything but sit.

This is an extreme example of what most of us experience on a daily basis. Often we feel FEAR to varying degrees and may not even recognize it. We stumble through our life wondering why we aren’t making the choices that will bring us happiness. We assign other feelings to our emotional state, but underneath it all, we are afraid.

We may be afraid of what others will say, afraid that we will be rejected, afraid we will lose our friends, our loved ones, our family, our homes, and many other things. So instead, we end up losing ourselves. We disconnect from our self-awareness and instead we choose to do what we believe we need to do to survive, to not be rejected, and to reach out for the things we think we want. In actuality, this often doesn’t work out as we expect, but because we are afraid we remain FEAR-based in making our choices and in our habits.

Many times, we don’t even realize that FEAR underlies other limiting emotions. Take anger, for example. Why do we become angry? We may say it’s because someone else did something, and that made us angry. But actually, we become angry to hide the feeling of FEAR that comes up when we don’t get what we want or when someone threatens us or whatever. If we can learn to manage FEAR some other way, it will help free us from all sorts of limiting emotional patterns.

Over the next few days, you might choose to start noticing what you are feeling and how FEAR might be underlying your feeling.  Also, take note of how you react when you are FEARful. How does FEAR control your behaviors? What do you do when you are afraid?

Perhaps you express FEAR by giving away your power to another – by doing what that person wants you to do, even when that action doesn’t feel “right” to you. Notice how FEAR keeps you from acting in a Loving way, a Heart-felt way. If you have a chance, jot down the times you give your power away due to FEAR. This is the first step in taking back your power from your FEAR – learning to recognize how you handle things when you are afraid.

It’s time for all of us to take back our power from FEAR – to stop making decisions based on FEAR – to start living from LOVE instead. When you love yourself as you would love a small child who is afraid, without judgment and with compassion, your FEAR begins to fade away and you find your true strengths. Your Heart Center holds the key to this transformation.

If you are interested in learning ways to free yourself of old messages and limiting beliefs, you might want to listen to the free teleclass on “Heart Centered Living: A Transformative Process.”  It’s available right at the top of the page.

Namaste,
Nedda