Kindness Creates Happiness.

July 14, 2014 by  
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May my mind be peaceful and happy.

Happy Life

When we’re happy,
we’re open to the universe.
We lead with an open heart.

One of the benefits of being kind and loving to yourself is that you start to feel happy.  You may not notice it immediately, but you will if you consistently treat yourself with kindness.

A peaceful mind is necessary to happiness.  If we allow our thoughts to run rampant with negative and worrying messages, we will definitely feel unhappy and fearful.  When we make our mind peaceful by focusing on positive, kind thoughts, our energy shifts into a more peaceful state and happiness emerges.

To achieve peacefulness of mind, begin by paying attention to the messages you give yourself.  Whatever you notice, write it down.  Make a list of all the things you say to yourself over a 3-day period.

  • Do you call yourself names?
  • Do you find yourself yelling at yourself or speaking harshly to yourself?
  • Do you hear yourself being angry and impatient with yourself?
  • Do you bully yourself?
  • Do you set unreasonable expectations for yourself and then treat yourself badly when you fail to meet them?
  • Do you actually believe you deserve to be treated badly in these and other ways?
  • Do you believe that “nothing ever works out for me?”  Or, “I never get what I want?”  Or other similar messages?
  • Do you hear yourself repeating messages you received as a child from the adults or peers in your life at that time?
  • If someone else is angry with you or critical of you, do you blame yourself for their judgmental behavior?

After 3 days, review the messages you wrote down. using the questions above.

  • What did you discover from this review?
  • Did you start remembering being bullied by others as a child – by adult family members, siblings, peers, teachers or other authority figures?
  • Did you remember making a decision to chastise yourself so that others wouldn’t be angry or bully you?
  • Did you start feeling emotions from the past that you had buried?

Whatever you discovered is good because you can’t let go of the past until you know what you’re still holding onto.

Children learn what they live, and if you don’t love yourself very much it might be because you didn’t feel loved as a child.  Of course, you probably were loved, but you may not have felt loved.  You might have felt that you had to meet certain conditions or standards in order to be loved.

Most of our parents and the other adults around us were wrestling with their own versions of this and often responded to us the way their parents responded to them.  This is how family patterns get passed along.

When we’re children, we don’t realize that adults are often struggling to provide for the family and may be holding onto their own emotional and mental pain from their childhood.  We can’t heal their situation, but we can heal ourselves.

You can decide,

“The past is the past, and right here in this NOW moment, I AM making a new choice.  I AM free to choose to love myself and to treat myself with loving kindness.”

Only then can you free yourself from the past.  To free yourself, you can take these steps.

  • Feel all the feelings.
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Forgive the other person(s).
  • Love yourself.  Look into your eyes and love yourself as you are right now.
  • Envision sending the entire energy packet of thoughts and feelings back out into the universe to be transmuted.

If you choose to send the energy packet away, you might see yourself on a beach stepping into the water just a bit and sending it all out into the Ocean of Love on the tide.  See, feel, allow, imagine it all dissolving into the Ocean of Love and being transformed.

Another practice that will begin the heal process from these old messages is to use a very simple prayer from the Buddhist tradition.  Any of these statements, whichever one appeals to you, will express exactly what you are requesting:  peace of mind.

May I have mental happiness.

May I have happiness.

May I be peaceful.

May I be liberated.

When you use this prayer and take steps to treat yourself with loving kindness, your mind will begin to shift.   You’ll find yourself feeling happier and more at peace.

 

Words of Loving Kindness

July 8, 2014 by  
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Prayer to Overcome Fear.

May I be free from danger

Are you experiencing fear and anxiety on a daily basis?

We’re living in a world where everything we see and hear in the media is purposely designed to create fear in our lives.

Fear is an energy that some beings consume, like food.  What we think of as food is really energy that appears to have a physical form.  In contrast, most of us think of fear as an emotion and as not having a physical form.  Consider that emotions are also just energy and some beings consume fear energy as nourishment.

One of the ways of reducing fear in your life is to be kind to yourself.  When you make the request, “May I be free from danger” you are asking to have fear eliminated in your life.

It doesn’t matter whether or not the danger is “real” – whatever you mean by real.  If you’re afraid, then the fear is REAL to you!

When we are afraid, we either run, defend ourselves, or freeze – flight or fight or play possum.  This is the biological imperative around fear.

Fear serves a purpose when you’re under physical attack, but in our society today many people feel under attack all the time.  We’re truly  bombarded with energies and messages that are unhealthy for us because they keep us in fear and anxiety.  This depletes our energies and can even make us sick.  We’re not meant to be running on adrenaline all the time.  It might feel good for awhile, but eventually, it will burn up your adrenal gland and cause “adrenal fatigue.”

Have you checked inside with your adrenal glands lately to see how they’re doing?  Back in the 1990’s, I checked in with mine.  They were exhausted and felt like limp oatmeal.  If you want to check in with your adrenal glands, there are 2 of them, each one sitting on top of one of your kidneys.  An adrenal gland that isn’t exhausted will feel plump and firm.

Here are a few messages that will increase your feeling of safety.

I am Infinite Consciousness creating all I experience.

I am Divine Love and I am Divinely Loved.

I am fully supported by my Divine Self, and by my spiritual guides and teachers.

I have infinite wisdom available to me at all times.

When I take the time to become quiet and listen, I will receive the perfect guidance in every situation.

After repeating the above affirmations, ask to be wrapped in Divine Love.

  • Imagine a warm blanket of love being placed around you.

  • Snuggle right into it.

  • Allow its beautiful energy to be absorbed by all aspects of you, into your hair and skin and nails, into every cell of your body.

  • Feel the love and know that you are supremely loved just as you are.

  • Allow all the fear to dissolve as you focus on being the love.