Heart Centered Living – Challenge #1

October 15, 2009 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, Heart Centered Living, New Posts




When I was growing up, I had two younger sisters.  Like all families with more than 1 child, establishing blame was a central part of life.  “Who started the fight?” my mother always wanted to know.  “Who left the refrigerator door open?”   “Who was supposed to set the table?”  The search for assigning blame (responsiblity) went on and on.

As we are growing up, we are  taught that the way to solve a problem is to figure out who is to blame for it.  I, personally, have not found this to be a very productive way to achieve solutions.  When we seek to establish blame, what we are often seeking is to assign responsibility and then follow that with punishment, shaming the person(s), and making ourselves feel better because we don’t have to take responsibility for participating in whatever happened.

Our entire culture is set up this way – the law, the schools, the family interactions.

What if this approach is entirely misguided, misleading, and unproductive?  What if we need to throw away this paradym and establish a new one?  What would you put in it’s place?



Spirituality and modern science are telling us the same thing:  everything that we think is outside of our physical bodies actually is a reflection of our inner world – of our belief systems, thoughts, expectations, and emotions.

If this is true, and there is more and more evidence that this is exactly how things actually work, then it is impossible for us to witness any event without being a creator/participant in that event.  It is impossible to interact with others without affecting the outcome of the interaction as well as the qualitative flavor, style, and content of the interaction.

For example, if the people around you are “negative,” then you are being shown a reflection of some negativity that is within you.  If the people around you are joyful, they are reflecting your inner joy.

The bottom line is, the only person on this planet that you can change is YOURSELF.  Therefore, if you have decided that those around you need to change, you had best look inside yourself and make the changes you want to see in them.  Unless and until you make those changes, you will experience the same reflection over and over again.



This DOES NOT mean that you have to keep yourself in a space with people who are constantly putting you down, treating you badly, abusing you, or anything of the kind. 

This DOES mean that, if you want to stop patterns of mistreatment that you are receiving, you have to make a commitment to yourself to treat yourself better.  That may include changing where you live, your job, and, MOST IMPORTANT of all, beginning a process of changing how you feel about yourself and what you believe about yourself and the world you see reflected outside of you.

To move into Heart Centered Living means:

 I am willing to take responsibility for my participation
in creating my life and everything in it. 

If you are unhappy with how you look in a mirror, you can throw out the mirror and get a new one, but guess what?  The reflection will be the same.  Only when you change yourself will you see a new reflection.


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Mirror, Mirror . . .

January 9, 2009 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, Animal Communication

Did you know that even your animals can be a reflection of you?

One of my clients, whom I’ll call Betty, requested a session because her two new kittens, whom I’ll call Molly and Mittens, were fighting.  Molly is 8 months old and has very high energy.  Mittens is a male, a little over a year old, very sweet, loving, and more sedate than Molly.  Molly had been with Betty for more than a month before Betty brought Mittens home a few days ago.

According to Betty, Mittens became depressed and his appetite has declined because of vicious attacks by Molly.  Betty, in describing what was going on, was quite angry and annoyed with Molly.  Her goal for the session was to find out more about what was going on between the two cats and then decide what to do.  Betty explained that she didn’t want to give Mittens away, but thought she might have to do that.

It was difficult, at first, for Betty to listen to what Molly told us.  Betty kept interrupting and saying critical things about Molly as I tried to encourage Molly to speak with us.  I finally persuaded Betty to open her heart center and quietly listen to Molly without making any judgments.  

With some encouragement from me, Molly explained that she has a hard time getting close to anyone, including people.  She had sensed a connection with Betty when they first met, and wants to be close, but doesn’t really know how.  In addition, she had been very sick when Betty brought her home and she really appreciated how well Betty cared of her.  Now that she feels better, she has lots of energy, just like many young, healthy kittens do.  She doesn’t feel like cuddling much because she doesn’t trust at a very deep level.  She is afraid to let love in because she might lose it again, and she showed me an image of her mother cat with the sad emotion of loss.

Once Betty heard what Molly had to say, Betty was deeply moved.  She told me, “I can’t believe how much this sounds like me.  I have issues myself about getting close to others and letting in love.  Molly has really touched my heart.”

I spoke then with Mittens, who explained that he feels very safe and has a lot of love to give.  He wants to be in this family so he can be a center for grounding energies and giving unconditional love to both Betty and Molly.  After we talked for a bit, Mittens said he felt better – less sad and more focused on his purpose for being in this family.

Betty went on to say that she had read books on Animal Communication written by Penelope Smith in which she had learned that animals can reflect our issues.  “I just never expected this to happen to me,” Betty told me.

I explained that this was a powerful opportunity for spiritual growth for both Betty and Molly.  “Stay out of judgment as much as you can.”  I suggested.  “These two cats have come to be with you to participate in an expansive and healing spiritual process.  If you get upset with Molly, just remember how much she is like you.  Keep your heart center open as much as possible and keep focused on forgiving and loving yourself.”

We tend to judge others negatively for exactly the same things we do not like in ourselves.  I have learned that when I am upset with someone else for something they have said or done, my next step is to look at myself to see what button in me got pushed and in what ways the other person reminds me of me.  Then, I know that I have to heal myself through forgiveness and love.  I have to forgive myself.  I have to love myself.  When I have done that, I no longer make negative judgments of other person who gave me the gift of being my reflection.

I suggested some flower essences for Betty, Molly, and Mittens.  The essences will smooth the way for the cats to integrate with each other, and will also help Betty and Molly develop a closer bond.  Of course, Betty will still need to work on her own issues, but flower essences can be very helpful as we move through the healing process.

The world outside us is a mirror of our inner world.  To change the nature of what we experience “out there”, we have to change our limiting beliefs and emotions inside.  The place for you to begin is with yourself.  The place for me to begin is with myself.  Then, when enough of us changes ourselves, we will also have shifted the consciousness of humanity into a place of greater love, acceptance, compassion, forgiveness, and joy.


The Gift We Give Each Other

November 20, 2008 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension

I am You.  You are Me.  We are One.

You reflect my issues back to Me.
I reflect your issues back to You.

This is the gift we give each other.

To change my experience,
I must examine whatever in Me is creating the reflection.

To change your experience,
you must examine whatever in You is creating the reflection.

I can’t “fix” You.   You can’t “fix” Me.

When we change ourselves,
the reflection changes and our experience changes.