Whatever Happened to “Ma’am”?

May 5, 2013 by  
Filed under Nedda, New Posts

. . . and Don’t Ask Me How I Am!!!

I personally find it intensely RUDE, OBNOXIOUS, and DISRESPECTFUL when salespeople say, “How are you?” and call me “Dear.”

Yet this seems to be the current state of making a purchase in a store.

Whatever happened to “May I help you?”

Whatever happened to good manners?

Whatever happened to being polite and

treating people with respect?

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Is it because my hair is salt and pepper

that I’m treated with such disrespect?

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The dictionary defines “ma’am” as:

“Short for madam: used as a title of respect.”


I am not “dear” or “honey” or “sweetie” or any other term of endearment to a stranger behind a register, filling my grocery bag, or waiting on me in a store.

Why are all the salespeople like little robots, saying the same thing to you regardless of what store you’re in?  Who has been programming them all to say the same things?

And the next sales person who calls me “Dear” or “Sweetie” or some other term of endearment is likely to find themselves under arrest for invasion of my personal boundaries.

I’ve had it with this level of intrusion.

In case you’re wondering how someone like me, someone with whom the word “conservative” would never be associated, I don’t know how to explain it myself.  I just know that the current state of impolite speech and rude behavior in my world has become intolerable.

And if you do know me, you know that I’m not likely to keep my mouth shut about it.

So . . . look out, sales people, because I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take this any more!!

I’m going to make myself a “name tag” that says,

Do not ask how I Am.

Refer to me only as “Ma’am”.

Otherwise, I’ll be complaining to your manager!