Self-Love: How do I love me?

Learning to love myself … seemed like a strange thing to do, at first.  Then I discovered that the old saying is true:

You can’t really love

someone else if you don’t

love yourself.

If my pot of love is empty, I have no love to offer another.

If my pot of love is partially filled, then giving away what’s there leaves me empty, exhausted, unsatisfied, and resentful, and feeling unloved.

If my pot of love is full to overflowing, I can generously give love to others.

For me to love me means I must fill my pot of love to overflowing.  Then I have plenty of love to share with others.

My pot of love.

If I rely on others to fill me up, I’m behaving irresponsibly.  I’m giving away my personal power by failing to acknowledge my own ability to take care of myself, as well as my worthiness to be loved.

When I say, “myself,” I’m not speaking of my “small self” or ego.

I’m speaking of my Divine Self, my I Am Presence.  I no longer see myself as small, helpless, and lacking in value.

I AM the Divine, and I have the POWER to fill myself up with Divine Love.

In this way, I acknowledge my ability to fill my pot of love to overflowing with the abundance of the Divine Love that flows infinitely from Source.

I have the power to fill myself up with love on a regular basis.

So …

How do I love me?

By resting when I need to rest.  By sleeping when I need to sleep.  By eating when I’m hungry, and eating what my body wants and finds nourishing.  This includes chocolate, by the way.  Chocolate is a “food group.”

How do I love me?

I fill myself by staying away from people who insist on being negative about everything, who focus on what’s wrong with everything, and who choose to see disaster everywhere.

By avoiding movies, stories, TV, news, and other things that are all about violence, abuse, and mistreatment of others when I myself am feeling vulnerable.  I already know that the 3-D world is filled with horror.  I don’t need it in my face as a daily serving of malnourishment.

I fill myself by training myself to shift to a positive focus regardless of the situation, to find the gifts and gold nuggets waiting for me everywhere, and to not allow energy vampires to feed on me.

Negativity is draining.

Positivity is filling.

I envison a world I am choosing to live in, one where love, harmony, compassion, tenderness, kindness, generosity, forgiveness, and mental/emotional sanity prevail.

How do I love me?

I speak kindly to myself.  I eliminate negative statements that are habits of thought.  “That was stupid.”  “What a dumb thing to do.  You’ve made a mess again!.”  These types of statements have no place in self-love.

How do I love me?

I tell myself the truth, even when I don’t like the truth.  No more secrets from myself.  No more lies to myself.  This is authenticity, and anything less creates holes in my pot of love allowing the love energy to drain out.

How do I love me?

I tell myself that, wherever I am, it’s the perfect place for me to be in this “now” moment.

Even tho’ my ego, my small self, may not know why I am where I am, my Soul knows.

That means there is more than one benefit to my being wherever it is.

So I seek the lesson instead of wasting energy in resistance or trying to run away.

This moves me through things faster and with less discomfort.  I focus on moving through the turn at the bottom of the curve and see myself emerging up the other side.

It’s like riding a horse.  If you look at the ground, that’s where you land.  If you look ahead, the horse and you fly smoothly forward to where you put your focus.

How do I love me?

I allow myself to be “wrong,” to make mistakes, and to know that I’m still learning, and that learning requires making mistakes.

When I am “wrong” about something, I admit it freely without guilt or recrimination.

How do I love me?

When I go into fear or anxiety, I wrap my arms around my inner child and comfort her with Divine Love.  Her fear and anxiety quickly begin to subside.  Then I get up and move around and do something, anything, to get my body moving.

I also have learned to use flower essences, supplements, and homeopathic remedies to help shift me out of dense emotional patterns.

How do I love me?

By giving to others what I truly have to offer, but only if those others truly want it in the moment I am able and willing to give it.

If someone wants something of me that I don’t have the energy or desire to give to them, I respect myself and them by saying. “No.  I’m not willing to do that.”

Anything else is inauthentic, and unloving to myself, and to them.

Have you checked in on your Pot O’ Love lately?  It it filled to overflowing?

Love is Golden

 

The Scarcest Commodity on Earth

March 15, 2016 by  
Filed under Age of Ascension, New Posts

Do you know what it is?

Surprise

SURPRISE!

It’s SELF-LOVE!

Here are 4 simple steps to increase your Self-Love.

1. Do you love yourself unconditionally?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you love yourself?

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Write down a number from 1 to 10 this very minute.

It’s important for you to answer this question before continuing.

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OK.  Now please continue.

Are you focused on the flaws you see in yourself?

OR

Do you love yourself despite all the flaws you may see?

You came into this life with gifts.

You also came into this life with flaws, sometimes called challenges.

You came to experience those challenges, to learn from them, and to heal them.

Your gifts are there to help you heal those challenges.

Some of the gifts actually appear as challenges.

Some of the challenges actually are gifts when you look at them from the higher perspective.

It’s all perfect.  Your life plan is perfect.

RECOGNIZE YOUR DIVINE PERFECTION.

Without self-love, you’re making your life more difficult.

Is that what you really want to do?

2. Have you eliminated self criticism?

Is there a little voice inside your head yelling at you, calling you dumb or stupid, and telling you that you’re no good or not good enough?

man yelling at boy

Do you berate and abuse yourself over the tiniest things?

OR

Do you speak in supportive, loving ways to yourself when things don’t come out the way you expected or wanted?

Mistakes are how we learn.

Mistakes are gifts to ourselves so that we CAN learn.

From this perspective, there really are no mistakes at all.

There are simply opportunities to learn that we give ourselves.

Make a commitment.

Stop judging yourself. 

Stop criticizing yourself.

Be kind to yourself.

 

The judgmental, critical voice in your head is a part of you who feels unloved and is trying in the only way it knows how, to increase self-love.

Unfortunately, the method it’s using is doomed to failure.

Fortunately, this part of you can be helped to shift into greater love and kindness.

3. When did you last forgive yourself?

If you made choices in the past that caused you to feel less than worthy, then you need to forgive yourself.

There’s really no need to beat yourself up over the past. Holding on and abusing yourself keeps the old pains and the old stories going.

Isn’t it time for a change?

You DESERVE forgiveness.

When you forgive yourself, it’s like setting a prisoner free, and you discover that the prisoner was YOU.

4. Have you changed your mantra lately?

Identify and transform all

negative, low energy

messages you are giving yourself.

Transform them into

UPLIFTING,

EMPOWERING

MESSAGES.

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Practice these 4 steps for a week.

Then rate your self-love again on a scale from 1 to 10.

You may be surprised to see how much your self-love has grown.

Kindness and Self-Love.

July 7, 2014 by  
Filed under Heart Centered Living, New Posts

 

Do You Expect Others to Love You

More Than You Love Yourself?

loving partners

There is a well-known poem by Elizabeth Barrett Browning that begins,

How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
my soul can reach….

Can you imagine what it is like to be loved this way?

Can you imagine what it is like to love yourself this way?

To love yourself completely, without judgment, is a practice, and it’s time for each of us to begin living not only from our hearts, but from a space of pure love, the kind that has no limitations, no boundaries, no judgment.

Are you ready?

Here’s one way to get started.

I, [insert name], hereby pledge myself to self-love.

As of today, [insert date], I promise myself that I will daily practice self-love in these ways.

  1. I will tell myself, “I love you” 3 times while looking into my eyes and thinking of someone else I love without limitation.  (This can be a human, animal, or divine being.)
  2. I will think of something I truly like and appreciate about myself and will write it down and post it on a wall.  (Use post-it notes, so that each day you can add a new one.)
  3. I will forgive myself for something that I don’t like about myself and post it on a forgiveness chart.
  4. I will be kind to myself by catching myself each time I have a negative thought or make a negative remark in my head or out loud, and instead hugging myself and telling myself that I love myself just as I am.

Signed:  ____________________

It’s OK to make mistakes. 

Do you believe that?

How else will you learn?

So if you take this pledge and then “forget” to do it,

there’s no need to get all in a tizzy and down on yourself.

Just begin again!

The world has not ended, and you have not proven how terrible you are.

What a perfect opportunity to learn forgiveness!!

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