Starlight’s New Toy

June 15, 2014 by  
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Starlight Meets Daisy
Starlight Meets Daisy

The indoor world’s a bore.

The outdoor world is more . . .

more stimulating,

more exciting,

more alive!!!

more challenging . . .

more dangerous . . .

more thrilling!!!

A life of safety and comfort is also a dull, boring life.

 

Indoor cats suffer from boredom which leads to lack of exercise – after all, there’s no need to hunt with that food dish sitting around.   All in all, this leads to unhealthy, fat, and bored cats, and the more intelligent the cat, the more deadly the boredom.

Yes, intelligence requires sensory stimulation, and also exercise.

Have you ever seen a cat outside?  It’s eyes, ears, whiskers, tail – every part of that cat is on the alert, not just for possible prey or predators, but for play, too!

What an injustice we’ve done to our cats!

Still, I’m not about to open the door and allow a naive kitten to run outside into a world where only her instincts and no training whatsoever and no experienced adult teacher are available to help her survive.  Without the guidance of a wise mother cat, there would only be trial and error to protect her, and Starlight is a true innocent.

So since I can’t get another kitten right now, as that would be grossly unfair to my to older beauties, I keep trying to find toys and other things to interest Starlight.  Perhaps I’ve found a piece of the answer?

Where's Daisy hiding?

Where’s Daisy hiding?

How tragic that I have to get my kitten a stuffed toy to play with, but how wonderful that she has taken to this little Gund kitten.

Yes, cats live longer, duller lives when we keep them inside.  There is no way we can replace the sensory input of the outdoor world that their eyes, ears, and noses are designed for.

It’s hard work to keep Starlight active, exercised, and intelligent.

Found her!

Found her!

Wrestling Match

Wrestling Match

Got Your Tail.

Your ears are cute.

Your ears are cute.

 And what does Starlight think of her new playmate?

STARLIGHT:  “I know Daisy isn’t a real cat.  I named her Daisy myself.  I know she isn’t real because she doesn’t bite me back or try to kick me or run around.  She doesn’t taste real when I bite her.   But she’s fun to play with, especially as I can’t seem to get Violet to play with me.”

Come on, Violet.  Let's play.
Come on, Violet. Let’s play.

What’s a kitten to do?

What I Learned – A Reincarnation Adventure

December 9, 2012 by  
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Starlight chewing my shirt button.

As of now, for all intents and purposes, Starlight has been integrated into our family.  There are still some rough spots, but overall, I have 3 happy cats who appreciate and love each other.

How did this get accomplished?

I’m not sure I can answer this question completely, but the lessons I learned are important for others to consider when adding a new animal family member.

  1. Get everyone to buy into the addition in advance.If you bring home a new cat or other animal, and no one is expecting it, you’re going to have a hard time achieving full integration.This means telling your current family about your plans.  This is part of getting the buy-in.  Let those individuals in your current family know why you woudl like to bring the newcomer home and address some of their personal feelings about having another family member.  LET THEM TELL YOU what’s on their mind.  This may take several days, as each one will process in his/her own timing.

    Then, introduce them telepathically and get PRIVATE feedback from your current animal family members.  If someone is unhappy about the new addition, make the supreme effort to help that individual understand your motives and also to help that individual heal whatever issue(s) the new addition is bringing up for him/her.  Until everyone agreed (without being brow-beaten into it), don’t do anything.

  2. Ask each of your family members to take on responsibility for helping the new family member integrate.Don’t assign tasks.  Instead, ask them to tell you what roles they want to play.  In my case, the two adult felines worked it out between them and told me/showed me who would be doing what.
  3. Once the new animal arrives,  check in as often as possible to find out how each of your animal family members is doing as the process of integration unfolds.Get feedback and ask for and take their advice.
  4. Make sure each member of the family is ready for changes as the process unfolds. For example, if I had just brought Starlight downstairs because I thought it was necessary and had not asked Violet and Sakhara to help me make the decision and work out the details, there would have been hurt feelings and chaos.  Instead, everyone made the supreme effort to adjust as Starlight was moved right into the middle of their personal space.
  5. Support your older family members as they go through the process.This is more than just giving flower essences.  This means taking the time to be with each one and give that individual all the love and attention that s/he normally enjoys.It also means that if an individual wants time alone, you honor that.

    If an individual needs to be heard, you honor that.

    Fully support each animal family member.  That helps that individual to make space for the new addion.

  6. Patience is essentialYou can let the others know that you are spending time with the new animal.  They’re going to smell it on your clothes anyway.  Be sure to explain what you’re doing with the new animal and why.In my situation, Starlight was really still an infant kitten and needed food and attention on a regular bases – at least every 4 hours at first.  Both my adults cats understood this, but my telling them what I was doing and why showed respect for their feelings and kept them in the loop.

    So YOU’RE the one who needs to be patient.  Don’t try to rush or hurry anything.

  7. Let the older animals take the lead whenever possible.Treat each family member as a sentient (feeling) and sapient (intelligent) adult.  Each animal has his/her own wisdom and perspective, and each of those perspectives is valid.You can’t make two other beings like each other.  You can only support their own way of getting acquainted and learning to accept each other.

    REMEMBER – some cats are screamers (like Violet) and humans often don’t understand feline sounds.  Learn to tune in telepathically to “hear” or “sense” what’s being communicated.  Unless blood is being spilled, STAY OUT OF IT!!  Allow the screaming to take place.  You can help by explaining to each animal the viewpoint of the other by DON’T TAKE SIDES!!  There is no “right” or “wrong” here.  There is only each one feeling his/her way along and getting to know the other.

For me, the challenges were:

ALLOWING my cats to do their own thing and not trying to “fix” anything.  After all, nothing was broken!

I had to learn WHEN and WHERE and HOW to step into a situation

I had to learn WHEN and WHERE and HOW to STAY OUT of a situation.

The calmer and more relaxed I was, the calmer and more relaxed my cats were.

May you all have a happy, joyous, and loving family of animals as I am blessed have.

Namaste,
Nedda

Starlight Integration – A Reincarnation Adventure

December 9, 2012 by  
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Starlight and Violet enjoying each other’s company.

An early English author, Samuel Richardson, wrote a novel called Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded in the late 17th century in the form of a young girl’s diary.  One of the critiques of this novel was that, if Pamela had time to write all this detail in her diary, she would not have had time to live it.

I face that very same issue with Starlight and her integration into our household.  I had time to live it, but not to write it all down.  Even if time were not so compressed that we are living what feels like 10 years of “stuff” each day, including taking care of daily needs and multiple crises, I still would have had insufficient time to keep a diary of all that has transpired.

So I ask you to forgive this abbreviated version of what has transpired with Starlight, Sakhara, and Violet.

In our last episode, Starlight moved downstairs with the express permission and agreement of Sakhara and Violet.  It soon became clear that we could only keep her confined at night, so during the day Sakhara would retreat upstairs and Violet and I would “manage” (ha, ha) on our own.

It was hard to get Starlight to bed each evening.  She didn’t want to be alone and my heart hurt to confine her.  Basically, I was waiting for Violet to give permission for me to allow Starlight to come to bed with us.  I knew that Violet had to be the one who decided because if I rushed this stage of the integration, I stood a very good chance of losing Violet’s cooperation.

Fortunately, it took only a few days (can’t remember exactly how many, but no more than 3 and possibly fewer), and Violet agreed that Starlight could sleep with us.  The first night, I put Starlight to bed, but left the door to her room ajar so she could decide what she wanted to do.  She stayed in her room (the dangers of operant conditioning).  So the next night, I took her upstairs with us.

The joy and relief in Starlight’s face and body were enormous.  I made sure that Violet could sleep in her favorite spot (down by my feet under the covers) and I kept Starlight in my arms, literally making a little “bed” for her to cuddle up and curl herself into.   We all settled in and slept fairly well.

A few days later, I restored the cat meditation room to it’s original condition, with the exception of leaving a 3rd litter box in there, as the downstairs bathroom is just too small for 3 boxes.   There’s a 4th box upstairs, and for a while no one used it, but now, it too, is being used.  Violet and Sakhara had been happy with just 2 boxes, but with Starlight here, we really need all 4.

Since giving Starlight full run of the house, Sakhara has begun playing with her.  Sakhara’s approach was her own unique system.  Once Sakhara established herself as “Top” cat (by growling and swatting and refusing to be drawn into the kitten’s play), Sakhara began playing with Starlight.  It fascinates me how this  worked.

Starlight had to show submission by turning over onto her back and exposing her belly.  Once she started doing that, Sakhara began to play.

Now, Starlight tries to swat Sakhara, but also lies down on her back, paws in the air tapping Sakhara’s face.  Sakhara growls and swats, but no longer runs away.  Starlight swats back and then joyfully jumps on Sakhara.  Sakhara growls and knocks her off.  Starlight backs up and comes back for more.  Sakhara may or may not run, but both seem to enjoy this interaction.

Violet has been having a more difficult time, actually.  Violet is a lady – dignified and grand.  She doesn’t like Starlight to jump on her, and Violet’s vocalizations are a combination scream and growl.

Violet often just runs, and Starlight chases, but then Violet gets into the run and chase and it becomes a game – at times.  Sometimes I see a smile on Violet’s face as this interaction gets going.

I keep reminding Violet that Starlight will be taller and heavier than Violet when Starlight reaches her full size.  I encourage her to sit on this kitten before she becomes too big.  But that’s not Violet’s way, and I have to accept that.

The only time I interfere, and I don’t do it very often, is when Violet is on my lap and Starlight goes after Violet’s tail.  I only do this on the bed, not downstairs.  I have taken this perogative because I consider that my time to say “good morning” or “good night” to Violet and Starlight has to learn to give me MY space to do this.

Otherwise, my role in all this is just to stay out of it.  No one is being hurt, and everyone is adjusting.  Occasionally, everyone sleeps together, but more often each cat sleeps alone, or Violet and Sakhara cuddle up together as they always have.

As of today, Starlight is 19 weeks old (about 4 and a half months) and weighs over 4 pounds and growing.  She’s a very big girl with big feet – huge toes and tiny claws that are hard to fine to clip, although they are sharper than needles and need regular attention.  She eats enough for 2 adult cats most days.  She plays hard.  She’s starting to climb the screens, so I’m going to take down the ones she can reach.  I hope by spring she’ll be past this climbing stage.

Some feline feedback:

Sakhara

SAKHARA

Starlight is doing really well, but I despair of her ever being fully grounded.  Still, she’s come a very long way.

She’s so sweet, and she’s fun, and she has brought just the right combination of energies into our home.  Violet and I have agreed that she’s too young to do very much energy work with us, but sometimes she does try to help us support Nedda.

Overall, I’m glad she’s here.

Violet

VIOLET

Starlight is amazing and wonderful.  She keeps challenging me and sometimes I enjoy her and other times she pushes my buttons so I’m getting to clear up old stuff to be ready for our whole family moving into the 5th and higher dimensions.

Nedda is being smart not to try to “fix” anything.  We each are growing, healing, and expanding our consciousness.  It’s a personal choice for each one of us.

Starlight

STARLIGHT

I just love being here.  I have the best family – they have been so patient with me.  I’m having a fantastic time.  The food is great and I get to eat as much as I like.  My only wish is that Violet and Sakhara would play with me more.  Sometimes I get a bit bored, but then Nedda steps in and we play.

It’s been hard not to immediately be accepted, but that’s ok because I know each one was doing her best to adjust to my arrival.  It can be a challenge to carry to so much Love and Light because others don’t know what to do with it.  At least in this family I didn’t have to deal with jealousy.  I was told before I came that many humans who carry Light have to deal with that, but that I would not have to.

So I’m having a ball!!  I’m really grateful to have this wonderful family and I want to help out, but Violet and Sakhara sometimes tell me to just be a kitten and enjoy that for a bit longer.

I had fun talking to the students in Nedda’s TWA class a few weeks ago.  I want to do more of THAT!!

 

Topsy-Turvey – A Reincarnation Adventure

November 12, 2012 by  
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The Best Laid Plans Get Rearranged –

CONTINUOUSLY!

Starlight and Violet cuddling – before October ended.

Still in her first week in her new home, Starlight and Violet were already getting acquainted.  Starlight was still spending most of her time alone in a room upstairs that I had carefully set up for her safety and comfort.

But it’s autumn in New England, and the weather suddenly changed and the temperatures dropped.  That very Friday morning I brought Starlight some breakfast and discovered that she was coughing a bit and that her room was too cold for such a young kitten, especially one who now seemed to have a bit of a cold.  Having experienced so many changes, I wasn’t surprised that her immune system was feeling a bit challenged.

I have an indoor thermometer because my furnace is very old and the thermostat is not precise.  I brought the thermometer upstairs and put it on the floor.  It dropped to 60 degrees.  Even with carpeting, this was too cold for Starlight.

“Family conference time,” I decided and announced to my adult feline companions.

So I sat down with Violet and Sakhara in the “cat room” downstairs.  “Starlight is sick,” I announced, “and it’s too cold upstairs for her to stay there. We have to move her and this is the only room I can think of where she can be downstairs and confined.  Unless you want her in my office?”

Two definite “no” responses to that idea.

“Are you two ready for full-time interaction with her?”

There were two definite “no” responses to this as well.

“Well,” I continued, “please give me some options of what to do.  I want your input because you two are in charge of her integration, as we previously agreed.”

We discussed the situation thoroughly.  Sakhara, who had had her own kittens before coming to live with me and Violet, was firm in her belief that a sick kitten needed to be warm.  She didn’t think that Starlight was very sick, but she did understand and told Violet that warmth was necessary.

Violet’s Meditation Cave in the cat mediation room.

Violet was reluctant to give up her meditation cave, in which she was ensconced as we three talked.  Neither of my adult feline friends were really ready for this shift to happen, but both finally agreed to make the change.

The meditation cave in the feline room backs up to a radiator for additional warmth in winter.  This got moved into the living room, which had to be rearranged to make space for it.  Violet ultimately approved the location.  (Sigh of relief from Nedda).

Violet Meditating (She gave permission for this photo.)

Then the cat meditation room had to be kitten-proofed.  Since this room also serves as my sewing room and pantry, I had to make sure that Starlight would not get into trouble once I brought her downstairs.

Finally, Starlight and all her things – bed, litter box, scratching post, toys, food, water – moved into the new room.  One more big change for a kitten who had already been through so many changes.  This room is smaller and not as interesting for a kitten – no bed to climb on – less room to play.  But safety and health had to come first.

Once that was done, I stopped for breakfast.  It was late in the morning.  Good thing I get up by 5 a.m. to get my day started.  I was very tired at that point, but felt we had made a good decision.

The next challenge was figuring out how Violet and Starlight were going to interact. Upstairs they had had two rooms and a hallway in whcih to get acquainted.  Space is a necessary factor here.  Violet insisted that we had to continue those interactions that very day.

The downstairs arrangement was not easily condusive to kitten training.  The cat room is right next to the bathroom where the litter boxes are for Violet and Sakhara. That could not be cordoned off.  Then right next door is my office, which would provide additional space for Violet and Starlight to get acquainted.

The only way to block off the rest of the downstairs, so Sakhara didn’t have to participate, was with the metal pen I had purchased for the eventual Starlight feeding station.   This proved to be totally inadquate.

Starlight has large paws and long legs.  She’s like a Thoroughbred race horse – FAST!!!  She also has amazing balance – she can walk along the top of the metal barrier like a tight-rope expert in the circus.  She has no fear, so will climb anything and jump anywhere and push through barriers.  This is part of her gift to humanity – total love and no fear!!

So this “barrier” was just a jungle gym for Starlight, and not a barrier at all.  After a day or so I just gave up trying to confine Starlight to a limited portion of the downstairs.  There is a door on the cat room, and Starlight would be confined for the night and for short periods of time during the day to give Violet and Sakhara (and me) a break from her energy and enthusiasm.  I also wanted Violet to tell me when SHE was ready to share her bed (the bed I share with her at night) with Starlight.

I left it up to my adult feline family members to make important decisions that affected all of our lives.  I felt strongly that this would create a successful and fairly rapid integration.  This turned out to be a wise decision on my part.

One of Sakhara’s favorite spots in the feline meditation room.

So at the end of about a week, Starlight had the run of the house during the day.  Sakhara was hanging out upstairs during the day.  She would growl and hiss and disappear, and this was something new I would have to address with Sakhara.  (More about this later.)

I was having to supervise meals carefully, as Starlight wanted what her big “sisters” were eating and her diet was not the same as theirs yet.   My gals eat raw food, and Starlight had been weaned onto canned food.  Yet another change that I wanted to make, but slowly so as not to cause Starlight any digestive upset.

At night, I began a ritual of putting Starlight to bed.  She didn’t want to be alone, and I didn’t really want her to be alone, but Violet and Sakhara HAD to be the ones who decided when Starlight would no longer be confined.  I would get her all settled down with some additional food, massage her with her brush, and put her into her bed.  I had to be very fast to get from her bed (next to the radiator) out the door without squishing the kitten, who, like lightening, would try to make an “escape.” In fact, she often DID get out, and then I had to go through the ritual yet again.

Keeping up with all this was exhausting, as you might imagine.

Violet was tired, too.  She wasn’t as fit at age 13 as she had been, although her “games” with Starlight were fitting her up once again.  I also had to make sure Sakhara got lots of attention from me, too.

Each evening, all 3 of us would collapse after Starlight went into her room “to bed.”

Each morning, we’d all start again to integrate Starlight.

Violet, the Teacher – A Reincarnation Adventure

October 23, 2012 by  
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Training the Kitten Begins

 

Violet

Violet and Sakhara had been working together energetically and telepathically with Starlight from nearly the first day of her birth.  They had been in cahoots, making plans and having conversations that excluded me, which is fine, although I was curious about all these deliberations.

Violet started showing up outside Starlight’s door on Wednesday of the first week each time I visited the kitten (which was 4 times each day).  She had integrated her chiropractic adjustment, and seemed ready to go to work with Starlight.  She would just sit outside the room quietly and would come downstairs with me after I left.

“Did you get the job of official teacher?” I asked that Wednesday morning.  She affirmed that this was the case.  “Let me know when you are ready to interact with her,” I requested.

A day or so later, I attempted to create a “see and sniff” situation between Violet and Starlight.  Starlight was eager (to put it mildly) to interact with Violet.  I had an old window screen in the basement.  I imagined that by holding it in place with some bricks on the floor the two cats could visit, but Starlight insisted on climbing the screen, with great ease, I might add.  I needed a better plan.

I could remain inside the room with Starlight to try to keep her from climbing over the top, but that would interfere with the Starlight – Violet connection, and I knew I had to stay out of their interactions.

It was psychologically important that I be on Violet’s side of the screen to support Violet’s efforts and not appear to be taking “sides” with Starlight.

I tried hanging a cloth over the upper portion of the doorway using self-sticking velcro, but I didn’t have enough to keep the determined kitten from pushing her way through.

Nothing I came up was working.

I turned to Violet and asked, “What do you think.  Are you ready to interact with her?”

Violet said,  “Yes.”

So I took a deep breath, used the screen to block off the staircase, and let Starlight come running out of her room.  I just sat on the floor near Violet and watched to see what was going to happen between them.

Starlight would come up to Violet, asking her to play and trying to sniff noses.  Violet would yowl and try to cuff  Starlight.  “Cuffing” is a feline way of disciplining a kitten.  It’s done with claws sheathed, as the purpose is not to injure, but to discipline.

Starlight, however, is faster than lightening.  For all of Violet’s efforts, she couldn’t connect with Starlight’s body – not even once!!  Violet had a very frustrating time of it.

I remained on the floor in the hall between my bedroom and Starlight’s room, and watched Starlight and Violet do an amazing dance up and back between the two rooms and into my bedroom.

Violet did a lot of screaming and swatting the air when Starlight approached her.

Starlight would back up, hunch up her back as if frightened, but also playfully, and then come immediately back at Violet again and again, face-to-face or from behind in a kind of “tag” game.

The game went up and back between the two rooms, as Starlight charged up to Violet, who would scream and swat to no avail.  Violet kept trying to get Starlight to back off, but nothing she did had any effect on Starlight.

Violet avoided going into Starlight’s room when Starlight ran in there, but would follow Starlight into my bedroom (which is definitely Violet’s territory, as she sleeps with me nearly every night).

Meanwhile, Starlight was having fun exploring my bedroom, where she had never been before.

After about 20 minutes of this, Violet was tiring.  Starlight, for her part, wasn’t getting tired at all.  She was more and more excited by all this play that she had been missing.

With Violet’s agreement, I decided it was time to stop.  The next time Starlight ran back into her room, I quickly went in and shut the door.

Starlight was disappointed – she could have gone on much longer, but I had other things to do and Violet needed a break.

After we both went downstairs, Violet agreed to repeat this interaction twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening.  Each time we finished, Violet would come downstairs and go to sleep, quite worn out.  Starlight would protest at the door  and then would play by herself with some of her toys.

Each time I separated them, Starlight would say to me,

“I LOVE Violet.  I just LOVE her!”

And, indeed, Starlight DOES love Violet very much.  And Violet needs as much loving as she can get, and this is turning out to be a great gift of healing for Violet, who never really had a feline to play with in this life.    Sakhara was more like a mother to Violet, and mother cats often just watch their babies play.  So I’ve been Violet’s primary playmate until now, when Starlight is teaching Violet how to play with her.

These games went on for 2-3 days, and then the weather turned suddenly cold and the whole arrangement had to be altered.  More about that next time.

Read about Starlight’s life purpose as she describes it.

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